Coffee, Tea or Me?

Our good friend Boru has been scouring the interwebs for gifts for that special spanko someone, and he's scored another hit with this mug. Personalize it any way you want here.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 25

Do you have any positions that are a hard "No"?

Anon: Nope. No limit on position or safe. There are some I would prefer not be in, but wife's decision not mine.

Sage: It's not a hard limit. But we do almost nothing else except that OTK position where my partner sits at the head of the bed and my head and legs are comfortable and supported--and my butt is raised over a pillow that's on his lap. We don't do other positions much, except wheelbarrow a little bit, with my head supported on a pillow on the bed between his calves. We've tried other positions, but that OTK one where I am spread out on the bed feels best. Since this is all foreplay to my dear vanilla partner, he does it the way I am most comfortable. And I have a totally hedonistic attitude toward spanking. 

Oh, it's not just the comfort for arms and legs here that makes this {OTK at the head of the bed} position luxurious. It's the skin on skin contact for both of us, since we wear no clothes when he spanks me.  

Something I don't understand. In spanking story blogs, it sounds like punishment and even funishment spanking people are really into embarrassment and humiliation as part of the punishment. So if a position is embarrassing, wouldn't you do it more? I don't get embarrassed by any position myself. I either feel comfy or not.

Roz: No hard limits as such, in general we stick to a few favourites. However there are a few I don't think I would like, such as the diaper position (which we have used on the rare occasion).

Bonnie: Not really, but sort of. My hard limits are positions that make my back or knees hurt. That's a bad kind of pain.

Embarrassment is never a concern for Randy. He takes great glee in caning me in the diaper position or paddling me while bent over. He knows this is not what I like and that it always hurts intensely. But at our house, this is how spankings work.

Luvinhub: When my wife was punishing me there was no limits. We did not have many positions that were used; the go to as Sage mentioned was on the bed over her lap, I think that was for both of our comfort as well as the intimacy of our bodies touching. Other positions was bent over the bed standing when she had pulled out a wooden spoon in the kitchen. If she had decided on any other position I would have obediently gotten into that position. 

Jack: My wife/mommy from the first spanking, over her lap is the only way I'm spanked. She feels it adds to the spanking, it makes the one getting the spanking to have no control and feel like a child. Also over her lap there is no way I can escape the spanking, I'm totally under her control and that insures that the spanking last as long as she feels needed and I learn to be a good little boy. 

Wendel: We want to be comfy before getting our butts whacked repeatedly with a paddle or belt, so we stick to pretty basic positions. 

Prefectdt: Not so much hard limits, but more preferences not to, are diaper and lunge. Mostly because you have to concentrate so much on holding these positions that you cannot enjoy the spanking.

Only real hard limit, position wise, is kneeling on hard surfaces. This is because I have had three operations on one knee and do not want to risk having any more.

Welcome back, dear friend!

Rosco: Irene likes room to take a full swing with a paddle, crop, whip, strap or switch, so we never do OTK.

I like to be comfortable so I can appreciate the spanking. I recently bought a “pouf” that I can kneel on while putting my chest on the bed. It works pretty well.

Irene sometimes instructs me to spread my legs which leaves my balls in a more vulnerable position. She likes to smack those as well, but does so more gently. But if a stroke intended for my bottom misses it can really hurt - and detract from the fun of it all.

Irene also likes to tie me up in different ways. As long as it doesn’t stress my back or neck, it’s all fun. She’s promised me a spanking today.

KDPierre: Depending on the circumstances I don't think so. I mean unless some position is downright ridiculous, which then would be pretty unlikely to surface, it doesn't seem too receptive to have a Top order a position and then say, "Nah, I don't like that one."

But the point is pretty moot in that we have our usual ones that seem best suited to certain situations and we tend towards just using what works. As for rejecting a position based solely on its embarrassment factor? Um...really? Is that actually a thing? LOL

Mark: We don't have hard limits but we definitely have preferred positions depending upon what implement is being used. I like being paddled over my wife's knee (especially with her holding my wrist behind my back) mostly because of the contact. She however prefers to have me over a bolster where she can get a better swing - part of why it's not my preference!
As per other's comments, I'm also not really embarrassed so that's not a factor. I like wheelbarrow (smaller swing and body contact) but my wife didn't take to it. We've never tried diaper.

Hermione: I love the idea of OTK with Ron sitting on a chair and me draped over his lap, but in reality, it's not at all comfortable. I would gladly submit to any position Ron chooses, but he's happy to stick to the tried and true one with me bent over the end of the bed. I wouldn't care for being made to kneel as my knees aren't padded or very bendable any more.

That was a wild ride! And thank you to Sage Blum, who has given me an idea for next week's question. See you then!

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #528

Just when I thought spring was coming, we were plunged back into the deep freeze of winter overnight. Oh well, March isn't far away, and in the meantime I will have to settle for some good old-fashioned seat warming. I'm up for pretty much anything, however I do have some hard limits. How about you?

Do you or your partner have hard limits in terms of spanking positions?  Are there some that are too embarrassing to be used?

Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation. Thank you, Bonnie, for this week's topic.

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You Completed the Caption

There's the original caption, and I admit I had to look closely before I understood it. Our dogs go nuts for the red dot too.

Now let's see what you came up with.

Anon 1: Spanking 101: Alright, gentlemen, let's start with the basics. This is what you're supposed to spank.

KDPierre: Cat thinking: "I know what ONE set of instincts is telling me to do...but why does ANOTHER set keep telling me I'm being set up?"

Roz: Target sighted.

Simon: The cat is thinking "if I wait a while that'll be a lovely warm place to sit".

Sage: How to entice your partner to spank you.

(Now I see the red dot.) How I became an incel.

Graham: Such a peachy perfect bottom and here I am stuck in a chastity cage! 

(PS: hope mentioning that as a fantasy isn't out of bounds.)

Not at all!

Donn: "Which 'Pussy' is going to jump higher when the cat sinks its claws into the laser-dot?"

Wendel: Neighbor: That’s interesting. The Smith’s have a dog now. 

 Rosco: After the paddling, Louise not only couldn’t sit - she couldn’t even bear the thought of putting on panties.

That was fun! I see I wasn't the only one to miss the red dot.

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Complete the Caption

We haven't played complete the caption for quite a while, but when Boru sent me this pic, I knew it was time to renew the tradition.

I invite you to be creative and add a caption to this photo. I'll reveal the actual caption that came with it once you've had a go.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 18

This week we discussed physiological changes that result from a spanking.

Wendel: When I spank the Misses by hand the palm of my hand is usually red and my heart rate becomes elevated from the excitement of seeing her bottom turn red. During a whipping with the belt the Misses will break out in a sweat and eventually get tears in the eyes. For both of us we also love to have lasting marks. Depending on what we get spanked with the marks may last for at least week. Just an extra reminder of the love we have for each other. 

Roz: Heart rate and breathing rate increase plus a rise in body temperature (not just my bottom). I also sometimes end up feeling a little physically weak briefly afterwards and have been known to get the shakes briefly afterwards also. 

Bonnie: Do screaming and kicking count as physiological changes? If so, there's definitely that.

I also experience rapid breathing, accelerated heart rate, flushed face, perspiration, raspy voice, and sexual arousal.

Sometimes, there are also some residual marks at the points of contact. Later, I may experience an ache, a sunburn-like sensation, or itching.

Barrel: From the thrashing I received yesterday, I have vivid recollection of rapid, heavy breathing, almost to the point of hyperventilating. I sweat and drool on the towel under my head. I tried to kick my feet but the Velcro straps held firmly. Like Roz, I was very uneasy on my feet when I stood up off the bench and needed to hold onto a table for a few minutes. After I sat down, I shook for about 5 minutes. I haven’t looked at my backside but I am sure I have lines from the cane, red spots from the tawse and a bruise or three from the hairbrush. But I deserved everything I got which was the hardest punishment I have ever received. 

Sage: At the time I have the rapid breathing, accelerated heart rate etc. and more of my natural lubrication that I had ever thought possible.

Overall: I sleep more soundly. Am calmer, which is probably related to a decrease in stress hormones. Jillian Keenan on Youtube mentioned the "white noise" of frustration disappearing, once one is no longer frustrated. That's happened to me.

I used to have a nervous stomach and trouble digesting food. Now I have a calm stomach and may have to start watching my diet so I don't gain too much weight. Which isn't a problem, because I can just eat when hungry. I don't need to overeat to deal with stress when we have the famous Vermont Country Store stress releaser AKA bath brush AKA pervertible.

My eyes and skin have lit up, my partner says. He looks more lit up too. Maybe not from spanking me, as he's vanilla & it's just foreplay to him. But he's getting more sex and more Ben & Jerry's (as Hermione so discreetly refers to it) now that we do more "foreplay." He's happy.

I do feel the itching and sunburn like sensation. But I can't have marks. My partner would have a cow if he left marks on me. I'm careful which implements I buy. And I keep checking my butt every 30 minutes or so after he spanks me. As soon as the redness disappears, I show him and announce "See. I'm fine. You didn't injure me. It was just the blood rising to the surface temporarily."

I can't take credit for Ben & Jerry's but I love it!

Jack: My wife/mommy insures my bottom is very, very warm, stinging, and a nice shade of red. I squirm and kick a lot as the spanking takes effect. I feel relieved, hard to explain, but my wife says my make up needs a spanking, and not just a playful spanking.

Luvinhub: For me I would agree with the majority of everyone posted, so far; heavier breathing, faster heart rate, and sweating. Often as the spanking gets intense I thrash about trying to avoid being spanked in the same area. I often have an erection or semi-erection before I am punished, that changes drastically as I completely lose my erection and shrivel to very small. The last portion is my body relaxes and accepts the punishment once I fully submit to the punishment and stop fighting it.

Rosco: It’s oddly relaxing - or maybe that’s not so odd.

Irene will often paddle or whip me with substantial intensity, then leave the room for twenty minutes or even up to an hour. Sometimes I’ll be tied up. As she leaves, Irene will tell me she’ll be back and not to move and to behave.

I’ll often take a wonderfully relaxing nap, then be ready for more of whatever when she returns.

Ronnie: Like others, rapid heart rate, raised body temperature, flushed face and sometimes a little shaky after.

Hermione: What Ronnie said.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #527

My goodness, how the week has flown by. I've been finishing up a project I was responsible for, and it's not been easy. It was a volunteer position, and I was happy to do it, until this year. A complete departure of all experienced members of the group left me struggling with newbies who had no idea of how things worked, so they all did their own thing in various ways. The frustration I felt left me with no alternative but to say that I was resigning. It feels good:)

Now for a little stress relief:

We expect that spankings produce a red, sore, hot bottom.  What other physiological changes do you observe?

Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation. Thank you, Bonnie, for this week's topic.

 Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine