I would love to know from others if they have had success encouraging their spanker to spank more frequently. I struggle with the inconsistency of spankings. I'm too often stir crazy for months before it happens and the spanking is never for long enough when it does occur. So, how to make this more fun for the spanker so s/he wants to spank frequently instead of once in a great while.
What suggestions or advice can you offer? Leave your response as a comment below, and I will publish an edited summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.
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I don't know how to answer that as having adult children at home we rarely get the privacy we need. I can only imagine the frequency would be around once a week if it was just us. I'm pretty sure she would be happy with that.
Yorkie
This is a great question. Consistency of spankings is an issue many of us face. I don't have any answers apart from communication.
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Roz
Tell them you want to be spanked more, and give them a minimum acceptable frequency?
If that doesn't work, find an extra spanker :D
I married a very serious woman, once she learned of my spanking desires she had no trouble with it. I soon found out that my idea of a spanking and her were two different ideas. Spankings in this household don't have long periods of no spankings. My wife knows me very well, trips across her lap are long remembered afterwards. Yes I wish to be spanked, and so my wife insures that I don't forget what it feels like to go across her lap, bare bottom, and feeling the sting of the hairbrush. Jack
I do ask my wife for more spankings, suggesting she give me one when I get home from work. Once she did meet me at the door with the riding crop and I try to encourage more of that, but it doesn't happen. I just keep trying as I know I need it.
To increase the frequency of spankings in our home, we have agreed I just have to leave an implement on her dresser in the morning. She always finds time later in the day to use if vigerously, so I have to be sure I am mentally prepared.
As for increasing her satisfaction and enjoyment in spanking me, she consistently tells me the part she enjoys the most is the actual spanking, rather than the build up. So as we are preparing for the spanking, I ask her if she will be especially strict and how she intends to color, or mark, my backside. When she has it to the degree she described, she has a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.
We have a standing date every week at the same time. We both look forward to our Friday evenings at home. Regardless of what else happens during the week, we know we can count on having this precious intimate time.
In our home it is also on friday evening. That nite our two sons spend the nite with my folks.
Peter seems to need to be rebalanced and nothing works better than a good long session
of domestic discipline. After he is eager then to repay me by seeing i find release and he doesn't .
It works.
anna
Communication is very important your spanker must be clear on what you want and need and you must show you appreciation when you receive it. Some people enjoy spanking and some don't. My wife spanks me only because she knows it is what I want and need. So since she makes that extra effort for me I make extra effort for her with things she likes.
nope...I'll let you know if I do... :-) Hugs
Our deal is for me to leave an implement on her desk. A spanking will ensue that night or the next day. Seems to be working for now. The best!
This is a complicated issue for us. What has helped tremendously is communication. Getting the focus OFF of spanking, and putting it more on our relationship took a great deal of the pressure off both of us. Better yet, spanking or no spanking, our life together has improved tremendously. As he becomes more confident in leading, the rest seems to follow.
Consistency of spankings can be a real issue. Communication is very important. Maybe ask for a weekly spanking on a particular night (see Bonnie's comment) I like that idea.
Love,
Ronnie
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1) If either of us wants a spanking, we ask for it. 2) If either of us wants to spank the other, it's done. 3) Most of the time, if one of us gets spanked, the other will also. Spankings happen at least once a week, often more frequently. It was a lot more when we were 20-something.
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