Monday, September 18, 2023

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for September 17

Slow and steady or rapid-fire - how do you like your spankings?

Graham: Depends on the scenario but generally slow at the start and faster at the end. 

Bonnie: Each has its place. A fast and syncopated spanking makes me feel a loss of control. I know I'm really in for it this time.

But the slow and measured approach can be even more intimidating. When he is completely under control and concentrating on systematically delivering a hard punishment, I know my butt is going to hurt.

Jean Marie: Bonnie answered this question with an eloquence that I cannot approach; she said it all perfectly.

Still, I have to be playful with some of the ideas suggested... I "prefer" a pace that is so slow one can hardly call it a spanking, more love-pats than swats, full of caresses and butt-busses. Most often, this will not suffice; wrongs must be righted, consequences faced (even though I'm face down and with ass upturned). I benefit from spankings that are measured not in minutes of length but in moments of barely contained electrical excitement, breathtaking in the spanking's duration and shocking in its severity. ("Surely he's wrapping this up, it'll all be over soon!" I tell myself, only to have it go on and on...) This brat needs her well-upholstered bottom blistered with frequency. I need to be marked, be brought to tears, to be brought low and humbled. 

I love that word the question used, "unrestrained." Sometimes I need to fear that I won't be left able to sit comfortably for a week, to be worn-out. "Safe, sane, and consensual" go out the window at such times. I need a maniac, a loving monster to thrash me, reset my internal gyroscope and set me on the straight and true path with a righteous butt-whupping!

I'm writing this with tears in my eyes because there is no one special in my life at present to give me what I want and need. Is a spanko worthy of the label if one is reduced to spanking one's own ass for stimulation/satisfaction? If you have a special someone in your life, count your blessings as they make you count the strokes out loud. 

Norse Cavalier: I spank hard and fast, but that's partly for practical reasons; the sub I play with has a really high pain threshold, so it usually takes an hour before she's had enough. I've given her three-hour-spankings in the past, but we rarely have time for that, so hard and fast it is.

It's also very fun to watch her squirm and moan as I strike her sit spots.

Roz: For me each has its place, depending on the situation. My preference though is slow and steady to start building up from there.

Rosco: Definitely slow and measured. I like it intense, but I like to be able to savor it and breathe between strokes.

Honestly while I appreciate her enthusiasm, when Irene goes too hard and fast with the whip, crop or switch it just hurts too much to appreciate.

Mary: The point of a spanking is for my wife to assert her authority. So it is not so much the pace of the spanking itself as the length of the spanking. So there is generally period of reflection in the corner during the spanking. Often there is a flurry of spanks, time in the corner, and then a stern lecture with me over her knee with each point accentuated with very hard methodical smacks with her paddle. By the end, I am very aware of her expectations in the future.

Jack: Who gets to choose? Not me. My wife/mommy depending on what I did, will start off slow sometimes, just to get my attention. Most of the time it is fast, rapid spanking, I'm soon kicking, squirming, which tells her she is getting through to me. When I start pleading, begging for her to stop, she applies the bath brush harder. The results she wants is a very red spanked bare bottom, a spanking dance, and seeing me facing the wall so she can enjoy her work. Bottom line, no pun, Mommy decides.

KDPierre: Slow and measured for sure. Too fast and my heart races and I can't catch my breath, which is scary and not the point of a spanking. Sore buns are the goal, not a coronary. LOL I wonder if fast is 'a thing' when the spanker uses their hand? I could see that being effective and have even administered spankings like that to others. But with a sturdy paddle? No way. I think it's just too much pain to process if delivered rapidly. 

Barrel: I think it depends on the implement, the more intense, the slower the pace. With a hand spanking, brisk is appropriate. Our hard plastic paddle and hairbrush are delivered at slightly slower pace. The riding crops require a more deliberate offering in order to be precise and intense, as is the tawse. When whipping with the single tail, patience highlights each stroke. Finally, our two canes are the most intense toys we have. Her pace with each stroke includes a measured pause, allowing the burning fire to sink in just long enough time to realize there is another one coming.

A.J.: OK; but before I put in my $.02; Jean Marie - What are "butt-busses?" (Do I have to get out more often?)

"What spanking pace do you prefer, slow and measured or fast and unrestrained? Why?

Which brings up another question: Is that question for the spankee - or spanker?
Cuz' I get a kick out of being on either side of the lap.

I'm going to assume spankee.

Since I only accept sensuous, hand-only, loving spankings, "slow and measured." To again quote Jean Marie, at "a pace that is so slow one can hardly call it a spanking, more love-pats than swats, full of caresses and butt-busses (What are they???)"

Start out like that, easy with loving caresses, then up the game to firm but not too hard swats, at a 2-per-second pace until a nice hot pink (not bright red) is achieved. A pause. Caresses. And then I properly thank her!! Whoo-Hoo!

Option - IF I WANT IT, and sometimes I do - is to end with a REAL spanking!

Years ago, after a WONDERFUL woman I was with thought we were done (and she had done a good job) I asked to go otk one more time, but this time - a real spanking. I asked her to imagine I was her BF and I had royally pissed her off. Told her to give me The Angry Girlfriend spanking.

She was "Really? You want that???" Maybe she really knew me.

Told her yes. I had never been spanked for real and want to try it.
"Give me the Grande Finale! So I could experience it.

She, a bit reluctantly, agreed. But then said she would cap it at 50.
Back otk, she put her left arm around me to hold me in place, and then let fly!!

After 50 she stopped, I got off her lap and on my knees in front of her, while rapidly rubbing my burning tush. And then she asked me, "Well...?"

Told her, "Wow!" Then, after we talked a bit, I asked, "One more time."

I got another 50 and then she said that was it. No more. And I agreed. Boy, did I agree!

Her opinion on why I took the first 50 so well was because of the 300-some moderate smacks prior to the Grande Finale!, I was, in sports terms, warmed up.

So, I got SPANKED! Capitals with an exclamation mark. I got to see what it was like.

I think what made it so wonderful was, on my multi-hour drive home, it was all I could think of! My tush still tingling, and all I could think of was HER!
How wonderful she was, and what a great spanking experience I had!

I was glad my bottom still tingled by the time I went to bed that night, soon lying on my stomach, imagining I was back over her knees. By morning that tingling was all gone. Shucks.

PS: We still keep in touch!!!

Wendel: Depends the implement. Whippings with the belt are slow and measured. The slower pace gives time for the pain to kick in after the initial smack. 

The paddlings can go either way but I typically spank the Misses at a fast pace. I love to see her squirm as her bottom rapidly turns red. Fast spankings also leads to tears. I love to wipe the tears away as I console her after the paddling.

When the Misses paddles me it will vary based on why I am getting spanked. She also likes to see the tears so I will get some very fast and hard spankings. I try very hard not to but once in a while the rapid-fire paddling breaks me down and I will let the tears flow. 

Hermione: I prefer slow, measured swats so I can savour each one. But as Barrel said, it also depends on the implement. Ron flicks the dogging bat very quickly from cheek to cheek, and that's a fun sensation.

Loki_Darksong: For spankings where I use either my hand, or a brush, I favor a mid pace. Fast enough to be effective but slow enough to not make me tired too quick.

For when I use implement such as a strap or a paddle or a cane, etc, I do favor a slow pace with varying strengths depending on the situation. With the option of speeding up that pace as necessity dictates

Slow or fast, spank on!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

1 comment:

Jean Marie said...

Dear AJ,
Butt-busses are simply kisses administered to the bottom during the spanking. A sigh and a smile and an arching of the ass up might just distract the Top from spanking and redirect them toward other endeavors...
Warmly,
Jean Marie