What is your advice on using a flogger?
Qbuzz: I never really got on with the flogger, though I did once receive a
demonstration from Danielle Hunt. It always reminded me of the 'towel
snap' that gets done in boys' changing rooms - twirling it round so all
the tails are entwined together and then whip the whole thing across
your spankee's rump.
KDPierre: The advice for flogger usage depends entirely on what it is made of.
Floggers can be well-made or cheesy novelty crap. And of the well-made
variety there are floggers made from everything from deerskin, (mild to a
point where Ron's arm will ache well before you even experience a
tingle. Deerskin is for folks who want to play act the part without any
real pain) To moosehide (which is a little worse and stings if a lot of
swing is used) to leather (now we're getting somewhere) to rubber (holy
crap! That stings!!)
I may be forgetting some others but those
are the main ones. So my advice is try it experimentally before using if
for a punishment or play session so you both know what this particular
does and feels like. And as with any whippy/strappy toy, watch out for
wrap-around. Better to swipe than splat....though controlled, targeted
splats can work well too.
The width and length of the are also factors.
Thinner being stingier. Wider catches the air and lands with less
impact. Again, the best information you'll get is through your own
experimentation. (it doesn't take long or require any special skill.
LOL)
And if it turns out this one is a dud
when it comes to sting, try using it on places you normally don't
strike....like the back, soles, or breasts and genital area. And if it's nasty...well...LOL..have fun!
Xen: Absolutely! I love floggers, but we only use the thuddy kind (I think
the primary one we have is buffalo hide?), so it definitely depends.
Main advice would be to practice on the mattress before moving on to
people. 😄 We don’t do it often because it requires more space than we
can easily set up, but I enjoy the sensation.
Roz: Wow, how wonderful! We have played with a flogger a couple of times
before it broke (it was more a novelty type flogger). I found it lovely
when used gently,the tails trailed over the body and definitely reached
placed often untouched! When used with more force however....ouch!
As
for advice...yes, watch for wrap-around and experiment. Start off
lightly and, of course, lots of communication and checking in to find
out what works best for you both.
Simon: I agree that it all depends on the quality and the material the flogger
is made from. However a good quality flogger is a fantastic toy
especially if used on the parts that don't normally figure in a spanking
scenario.
Prefectdt: You have your first Flogger! Lucky you :) I love being flogged.
I
have no idea what kind of flogger you have. Floggers can vary in
sensation greatly, depending on what they are made of and the quality of
the make, so it is difficult to say how best to use yours without
knowing more about it.
Many floggers can be a bit 'endy' giving
the sensation of being lop spanked, if the person delivering only has
access from one side. So for a first flogging I would recommend that you
lie full length face down with Ron having access to you from both
sides. Giving a number of strokes (five or six for example) from one
side and then moving around the other side to give the same number of
strokes. For a first flogging start easy and then experiment with
intensity until you are both used to the flogger, preferably on an
impact area that is used to getting the licks. Floggers being delivered
from above are easier to control, once Ron has gained some skill then
you can experiment with standing or bent over positions, with the
flogger coming in from the side.
Floggers can become irritating for the recipient, if they become
entangled or the tails become crossed. So it is a good idea if Ron
pauses every dozen or so lashes (the word lashes gives me excitement
goose bumps) and performs the ceremony of "Combing The Cat". By that I
mean holding the flogger upside down and running his fingers through it,
to make sure that all the tails are straight and separated. This can
make a big difference to the quality of the play.
In the old days I used to be an
up tight spanko, only allowing play on my buttocks and thighs but over
the years I have loosened up this rule and with floggers I enjoy play
from my shoulders right down to just above the back of my knees. It is a
toy worth experimenting with, to find out how you like it.
Remember
to give your selves a chance to get used to this flogger and that every
flogger is different. So if you find that you enjoy this one, it will
probably not be your last flogger. Happy spankings.
Willie: I remember the first time B actually purchased an implement without my knowledge, a whole rush of emotions came forth. LOL.
I
can't add much more than what KD and others said. I would reiterate
that as a experienced 'spankee' you probably won't feel much deep
sensation with a flogger if Ron stays in the buttocks area. The torso,
front and back, the back of the thighs and for more sting the front of
the thighs provide a better option. I will say, even to this day,
standing there having B flog my front is a tad intimidating as I'm
always afraid he's going to miss or a fall will hit my face ( never has
happened but...lol)
Anyway there is a BDSM Domme who has a lot of
great videos on Youtube, her name is Morgan Thorne ( She's also
Canadian). She has 3 on Flogging. B became much better at flogging
once he watched them. The first one, you can really skip ahead to the
20 minute mark. I am including
the link. Hope it helps.
Ronnie: How lovely of Ron to surprise you with a flogger.
Can't add more than what others have said. I know the Flogger can be very sensual used on other parts of the body.
Enjoy and I hope you will share your experience with us.
Morningstar: Your first flogger!!! I am excited for you.... I love floggers always
have guess I always will. In the day I had more floggers than could be
used on me in one session!!
As Spankedhortic said there are so many different types it's hard to advise....
I hope you enjoy it!! IF you do - trust me - it won't be your last one :)
Wendel: We have had one for a while now. It is a nine-tail cat that we use only
on the bare bottom. The Misses prefers getting whipped with the flogger
over the belt. I do agree that it can get tangled easily.
Barrel: We do not have a flogger. But with such an inspiring conversation over
brunch, perhaps we should. I will withhold my judgement until I read of
our hostess's report on her first flogging.
Hermione: Ron was rather amazed at the length of the thing; he hadn't realized it would be that long. It's leather, rather stiff, and the tails are thin. I asked him if he had watched a Youtube video for tips, and he said no, he'd just wing it. Okay.
He started off with a warmup using other implements - two different leather paddles. Then came the flogger. Ron didn't use much force, but it wrapped around my right side each time so it felt like a dull thud plus twelve fire-y bites on my right hip and leg. Then he started to enjoy himself.
"I've got the knack!" he exclaimed. "I'm going to get another one." He's never been that thrilled with an implement before. We both had a good laugh and he did seem to improve, but I still hated that wrapping. I might send him the link that Willie provided above so he can see how the experts do it.
Thank you all for the great advice!