When did you first express your fondness for spanking to someone?
Red: It had been many years before we actually talked about spanking.
Cindy was aware I purchased spanking magazines, and they at that time
were exclusively (99%) the woman being spanked, whether by a man or
another woman. I also purchased Penthouse letters, then Variations,
exclusively to read the spanking fiction, as you knew it was not real. I
also purchased Janus, Februs, and Scarlett Hill, reading the man
being spanked editions. I would hide them away so the children would not
see them. Eventually, maybe 20 years ago, I suggested as foreplay that I
spank Cindy, but that was not going to happen. As the internet became
available, I moved into reading of the man being spanked, and found it
equally stimulating. The Disciplinary Wives Club website gave me the
courage to ask to be spanked, and slowly my being spanked started. I had
Cindy read their website, and Aunt Kay's manuals, and slowly Cindy came
to be agreeable to spank me.
Baxter: I first brought the subject up during the first year of our marriage in
asking for my wife to spank me and she said no, that it was perverted. I
was disappointed but my fantasies of spanking as spanker and spankee
continued and I bought a bunch of spanking fiction books from Amazon. At
one point, my wife asked to read one of them and I gave her a book by
Fiona Locke. In reading it, she said she understood and told me to pull
my pants down, hand her my leather belt and she gave me a spanking. Wow.
so we were off to what was a slow start, but she has always spanked me
when I asked. And it is in fun and she spanks me only in prime numbers,
like 17 or 23 or 37, spanks. I wished that we could have done it earlier
in our marriage and she said that also recently. Better late than
never.
Roz: Fairly early on in our relationship we were having a bit of a date night
(favourite takeaways, a few drinks etc) and the subject just came up in
conversation and we both expressed an interest in spanking. I can't for
the life of me remember how the subject came up now.
Bonnie: Our first time
occurred when Randy and I were college students. We had been dating
for a couple months. We were playing in bed on a warm summer Saturday
afternoon. A spontaneous experiment led to a simultaneous recognition -
Spanking works for both of us!
Minielle: I’ve always, always secretly loved anything spanking. Old romance books
had many a short scene or two... hubby threatened and did spank from the
moment we began dating. It was haphazardly practised. However, when I
found everyone here and really accepted it all—- I told hubby. He was
happy to practise.
Wendel: It has been so long now that I do not really remember how it started.
Just thankful the Misses enjoys being spanked and enjoys (maybe more)
spanking me.
Fondles: My enjoyment of spanking I think is very much specific only to BIKSS,
and he was a bit confused at first but he went online and read
everything I sent him, and then some.
We started with some hand
spanking and that went well. I gave a LOT of feedback and he asked a LOT
of questions. And from there it was easy enough to move on to
experimenting with different things, as we both do a lot of reading and
talking about anything new before trying it.
I did have to
work a little bit at convincing him to try the cane tho. LOL. (He had
had a bad experience with it as a child, but in exploring it together it
has given him the chance to see it in a different light, I'm guessing.)
Nena: I have always been interested in spanking, as long as I can remember.
My
husband and I had been together for little over a year when I finally
found the courage to tell him. He had a hard time with it, went through
the 'but I love you, I don't want to hurt you' phase. I don't quite
remember how this changed, but he got over that.
Things worked out
quite well, together for 27 years now and he has no problem hurting me
anymore at all, he actually enjoys spanking me :)
Jack: I dated older women, found them to be more open. One particular woman
in her late 50's I was seeing, was a lot
of fun, but could be serious at times. Being older she knew I would do
stupid things, part of being young she would say. We had been seeing
one another a good six months and out of the blue she said there were
times she wanted to give me a spanking. I said nothing at first, it was
what I wanted to happen.
We enjoyed the coast, rented a coastal home,
visited it many times. We came back from going out to dinner, she was
not happy, said little, and just went to bed. It was the next morning, I
slept in, she was in the kitchen. I knew she was mad, and then I saw
the hairbrush on the table. Young man you're getting a spanking. I just
looked at her. I then said to her, go ahead, it should be fun, sexual
foreplay I said, and I took off the underpants and stood naked, erect,
smiling. Well once over her lap it was not funny, it was not sexual
foreplay, that hairbrush hurt, landed hard, rapid spanks, I was kicking,
squirming, saying enough and she said funny, sexual foreplay. When she
finished, stood me up I was rubbing my bottom, she said no rubbing.
Just stand there, no talking, should have spanked you when I wanted to. She left the room, came back with one of my
spanking magazines. Disgusting she said, and then told me to get use
to being spanked, no matter where. I dated her for another year, she
said it was best I date more my age. It took awhile, found a wonderful
girl my age. As for spankings, well it didn't take long to get a
spanking from her.
Realblueeyes: Years ago when C and I were first dating I made some sort of smart ass
remark and she said that one more remark like that and she would put me
over her lap and show me who was boss. I dared her and in no time I was
over her lap with my jeans down and she went to work. Life has not been
the same since. We trade spankings both as play and sometimes
punishment. They are simply a part of our life together. We have small
circle of kinky friends with whom we sometimes share. C's mother knows
about our fetish but does not participate though she thinks is a good
idea to keep us both in line. She gave us a wonderful bath brush as an
anniversary present. Spankings nearly always lead to some really intense
after care which heals everything and really clears the air.
Barrel: I asked my girlfriend to spank me with her sorority paddle when we were
in college. She obliged and that confirmed my need to be spanked. That
relationship ended, and with it my spankings. My next relationship led
to marriage, but she was pretty vanilla and I was reluctant to push her
where she didn’t want to go. So I read the letters in Penthouse and
Variations in an attempt to satisfy my kink. Two years into our
marriage we moved to the South West (US) and down the street was a
tack/equestrian store. I stopped in one day and bought a short riding
crop and gave it to my wife, along with my encouragement to put it to
use. She did, and the rest is 40 years of history.
KDPierre: With Rosa, pretty much right from the start which was easy since she had
already expressed her own desire to be playfully smacked. When I
suggested we try it with her as the spanker, she initially needed just a
very short time to process the request. It took her a few minutes and a
few questions to wrap her head around being the Top, but once she gave
it a try it was like a whole world opened to her! She essentially always
WAS a Top who even had sadistic thoughts, but her culture had so
repressed the idea that she never allowed it to surface.
The way
things ended up for us is where we have been ever since: her with an
occasional sexual urge to be treated roughly and even lightly smacked
but without any obedience or submission attached. Just sensation play
for her, but an entire D/s relationship with her in charge as our 24/7
dynamic. She is utterly convinced we are both exactly where each of us
should be and she has no guilt or hesitation in doling out a punishment
spanking FAR more lengthy, serious, and severe than anything she would
allow to happen to herself.
The key for me has always been to
never hold back on confessing my need and desired role to anyone I have
ever been seriously involved with. Anything less would be disastrous.
Morningstar: My story might be just a little bit different. About 10 years ago I was
without a partner and dearly missing spanking. A friend convinced me
to go on a blind date he arranged (he was there too) at a BDSM play
party. Sir Steve and his then wife both played with me - and continued
to play with me for quite a few months.
Fast forward 10 years and Sir Steve and I are now together ... and picked up our spanking story from where we left over.
Rosco: Jeez, what a question. Sorry, but I’ll give 5 answers, the last being the important one.
I
was shy and inexperienced but obsessed with spanking. Unsure if I was a
top or bottom. I met a girl at the beach. We wandered away from a
nighttime bonfire, and were flirting by play wrestling. At one point she
kicked me between the legs - not super hard, but hard enough to get my
attention. I turned her over and spanked her bottom, with her panties
showing below her short shorts. She kicked again and I spanked again,
harder. Then a third time, which was followed by a different sort of
physical contact.
A few years later I had a girlfriend who
professed to be open minded, and was in some ways. I asked her to spank
me. She thought it was weird and told me so. The experience set me back.
Another
girlfriend was taking off her belt as she undressed, held it up and
said “this is my whip”. I blinked and missed the chance.
With yet
another, who had a muscular chubby bottom, I took a chance and put her
over my knee for some sharp slaps. She told me she didn’t think she
liked it and we moved on. This time I didn’t feel bad.
After a
few months with Irene, now my wife of many decades, I raised the
subject. She had no interest in being spanked, but would be happy to
spank me. So she did. It was a few months before she got sufficiently
aggressive, but we’ve taken it into all kinds of powerful experiments,
role playing etc. everything went up a notch after the kids left home.
At this point, I’d say Irene is more committed to spanking as an
important prelude to sexual activity than I.
Hermione: I told my husband all about my interest in spanking and asked him to spank me. He obliged, but told me I was sick and perverted. After our divorce, I met Ron, and was hesitant about confessing my desire a second time. Luckily, Ron took matters into his own hands and initiated a spanking. We haven't looked back since.
Thank you all for sharing your stories. Stay safe and keep your distance!
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