Our discussion was about how to explain the pleasure we derive from pain of spanking to a vanilla person.
Bonnie: Yes, spankings definitely do hurt, but it's a positive sort of hurt.
An
itch is an irritation of the skin that feels unpleasant. Scratching it
irritates the same skin, but feels good. A well executed spanking is
like that welcome scratch.
Besides, spankings shared with your lover are really fun!
Nina: Oh wow, I think Bonnie has explained that perfectly. :) And if it is not
a fun spanking, one of the wonderful effects it has is that I can feel
physically that I am forgiven, and it brings us closer too, as it is
such an intimate activity.
Downunder Don: How can you explain the paradox. The thrill of driving a fast car, the
rush of skydiving, the tranquility of watching a sunset...you either
get it or you don't!
Baxter: My answer - Well yes the spankings hurt, but the buildup to the event of
desire and horniness AND then the time after of a warm bottom and some
soreness are very enjoyable. Not to mention that the spanking awakens
both males and females in that part of the body and the sex afterwards
is incredible. So pain and pleasure mix in a wonderful brew of
enjoyment.
Liza: This is how I explained it to someone last year. I said it's kind of
like having really sore muscles and when you get a massage, it hurts but
feels so good.
Leigh: It's like a good massage. It hurts so good.
A couple of days
ago, one of the other bloggers had a post that compared wanting to be
spanked with a runner. You know it's going to hurt but again it hurts so
good.
Ronnie: Couldn't explain it better than Bonnie.
It hurts but it's a good hurt:)
Minelle: So many good answers here. I think it's that adrenaline rush when threatened, then it happens, and it fulfills that desire!
Dr. Ken: Yes, it hurts--no point lying to them about that.(They'd never trust you
again if you said, "You're an adult, it doesnn't hurt a bit!") But I'd
explain--or try to explain-- that spanking isn't just a physical act,
it can push buttons on an emotional and mental level, as well. It's not
just the sensation, but the setting as well. I'd emphasize the fun
aspects of it--and if she agreed to try it, I'd make that first spanking
as much of a fun experience as possible, including rubbing her bottom
in between spanks and then aftercare.
ricky: Maybe it's like getting out of a nice, toasty warm bed on a frosty
morning that also happens to be your day off, but something prompts you
to get up, shiver, stomp your feet, and then wonder why you feel so
good.
Jenn: I've written about that on my blog. The
explanation is based on the Opponent-Process Theory of psychology. It's
the euphoria of surviving a stressful situation that we are looking for
when we let a man redden our bottoms. The best analogy is that spanking
is like going whitewater rafting or bungee jumping - a thrilling, if
painful experience that is generally survivable.
See also this well-written blog post at gettingstronger.org: "The opponent-process theory of emotion".
Hermione: These are all excellent explanations. To me, it's sort of like explaining what an orgasm is. It's a very stimulating sexual experience, but you have to try it to find out what it's really like. But unlike an orgasm, spanking is sometimes an acquired taste.
Thank you all for participating. See you next time!
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