Our question this week was what three benefits do you derive from spanking? Here's what you said:
Baxter: Interesting question, Hermione.
1. Spanking satisfies an erotic need of
mine as whenever I am looking at photos, reading stories or told I am
getting a spanking, I get very aroused as well as when I am told to
assume the normal over the pile of pillows position with my bare bottom
up.
2. The second need is anticipating the start of the spanking and then
the actual spanking which can be painful.
3. However, the third need is the
enjoyable afterglow of a very red bottom as well as residual pain for a
few days. Those are my needs and my wife certainly helps me meet those
needs that are also wants.
mouse: Oh fantastic question Hermione, and one that mouse has been mulling over
a lot recently.
1. For mouse it leaves her more vulnerable to Omega,
which in turn makes her open to him and more honest.
2. It also builds her
confidence in an odd way. It settles her mind and the usual worries she
has don't seem so insurmountable.
3. That leads her to tell Omega more
about the thoughts rattling around in her head, as opposed to assuming
he doesn't need (or want) to know.
Autumn: 1. Erotic satisfaction--it's pretty much the only thing that turns me
on...I've learned to accept that as a benefit in my life. I am who I am
:)
2. It has deepened the connection between my husband and me--I
have never felt more taken care of than when he's spanking me--for
discipline, fun, or stress relief. And, he has felt that connection, as
well, that we didn't get with more "vanilla" activities.
3.
Blogging has been a very cool side effect of spanking, actually. I
discovered blogs a really long time ago (when I was...ahem...underage).
It was a relief to know that there were people like me in the world.
And, when I discovered I really enjoyed writing as a hobby, I knew the
exact blog I wanted to start!
Arched one: Super question Hermione. For me the whole spanking process is erotic no
matter if the spanking is punishment, maintenance or play. Being told a
spanking is in order starts the erotic process. Then I get out the
implements looking each over and thinking how each will feel. Then
showering and presenting myself in panties to her telling her I'm ready
to accept a spanking. The panties are lowered (by her or me) and I'm
told the position. Then assuming the position and waiting for the first
of many spanks to land. What can I say I love it when she spanks me.
Bonnie: Three benefits? I only get to choose three? Listing ten or twenty would be so much easier.
1. At the top of the list has to be the connectedness that Randy and feel
during and after a spanking. A good hard spanking reinforces and renews
the bond between us as partners and lovers. I am never more open to him
physically and emotionally than I am in those moments.
2. Next, I
think, is the afterglow I feel for hours and sometimes even days
afterward. I am happy, energetic, and in love. That twinge I notice each
time I sit makes me smile.
3. Finally, there is this incredible
community that coalesced around this topic. If we weren't spankos, I
wouldn't have had the opportunity to meet so many smart, interesting,
caring people.
Pecan Nutjob: I'm a switch, so, as a spankee -
1. Discipline. My wife spanks me for real
"issues", such as temper flares, and the thought of previous sessions
over her knees is shameful enough to sometimes remind me of proper
attitude.
2. Guilt relief. If I get punished for a real issue, I feel relieved afterwards.
3. Eroticism.
I feel strangely excited by spanking and other forms of discipline or
"embarrassing" acts. In fact, few of our spankings are purely for real
problems, most are for play, entirely or partly.
As a spanker -
1. Revenge? If my wife has been unpleasant or cheeky, I find it strangely pleasant to chastise her.
2. Eroticism. The same in reverse.
Mutual DD Couple: We're a couple in a mutual DD relationship. The three main things we get out of it are:
1.
Punishment spanking has eliminated most petty disagreements from our
relationship. We argue less and appreciate each other more.
2. It's incredibly kinky. Although we don't like punishment spankings (they wouldn't be punishments otherwise) we love the
idea that we receive them.
3. It gives us something interesting to blog about. (We've just started.)
Welcome!
ricky: Consensual physical, emotional, and spiritual contact = je ne sais quoi....
Katie:
1. Promotes connection; gives a reason to come together on a regular basis;
loving, listening and paying attention to the feelings of the other.
Allows each to feel valued and cared for in and out of the bedroom.
2. Provides
a loving vehicle by which emotions are released- laughing to crying,
depending on the type- whether fun, sexy, other- or all. Overall good
feeling after.
3. Growth of intimacy. Promotes the sharing and giving to the other of oneself inside and out.
I'm still thinking but this is a start. Great topic! Thanks Hermione!
Hermione: 1. It's the time when my husband and I are closest, and I relish the intimate connection.
2. I enjoy the pleasure mixed with pain.
3. No one would ever guess that I am into spanking, and it's a secret that I carry with me wherever I go. I like to imagine what people might think of me if they only knew.