This week I heard the phrase "spanking fetish" used in a conversation on a television program, so I decided that it would make a good topic for today's discussion. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines a fetish as "an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression". Vocabulary.com defines it as "a form of sexual desire in which gratification depends to an abnormal degree on some object or item of clothing or part of the body".
Do you think spanking is a fetish?
Leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.
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Yes, I believe that being a 'spanko', one fantasies 99% of the time on that most beautiful part of the body called in varies ways, 'bottom, behind, rear end, etc. And you wish to honor it, by spanking it.
Spanking is most definitely not a fetish in the manner of the definition and is not abnormal. I think not being interesting in spanking is more of fetish since someone has to be fixated on not spanking a bottom. If that makes any sense. :)
Not in the strict sense of the definition. Most spankos do not need (as described in the definition)the spanking act to fulfill any sexual gratification; it just makes everything better.
I do not think it is always a Fetish. For some it may be needed to complete their sexual needs. For others it is needed in one form or another to complete their sense of SELF. ie....giving,recieving...reading or writing about, drawing, visualizing, fantasizing, etc....
Nope - not a fetish. It's a psychophysiological aphrodisiac or maybe a fixation. Whatever it is it's fun.
Trying to define something is a great way to make it lose it's appeal. Spanking is a consensual fun activity between adults--let's just leave it at that!
Whilst it may not fit the specific definition of a fetish I think it is definitely one. Certainly for me as I find spanking or being spanked sexually gratifying whether used as a means to an end i.e. sex or in it's own right. If you don't define it as a fetish you are left with the word perversion which is a much more judgemental word and carries negative overtones.
I don't this it's any more of a fetish than cunnilingus or fellatio. It's something that is pleasing to some and not to others - that doesn't make it a fetish.
If we follow the definition above, spanking is not an "object or item of clothing or part of the body." Our spankings are not a prerequisite for sexual gratification, but rather another form of sex.
As for the possibility that spankings might "interfere with complete sexual expression," that certainly hasn't been true for Randy and me. We have explored corners of our sexuality that we didn't even realize might be of interest to us.
And if we're "abnormal," so be it. I am convinced that our lives would be a lot less enjoyable if he didn't spank me.
My answer is no.
"Is spanking a fetish?"
For whom? I'm sure it is for some. For others it is merely spice. To others still, it satisfies a deep desire but is not essential for gratification but is perhaps essential to emotional balance. For the rest, it's a quirk other people have, and something to snicker about.
The word "fetish" is misused often. While the definition you listed is accurate, "through common usage" 'fetish' has come to mean a preference. (e.g. a person who likes feet .....though doesn't necessarily NEED feet for full sexual fulfillment is still said to have a 'foot fetish'. This misuse happens all of the time.
No, spanking is a consensual happening between two adults to enhance their sex lives. The only fetish element is that
curvaceous bottom, which thankfully our ladies have been endowed with, and just begs to be spanked.
On FetLife, it is categorized as a fetish. I guess it is except there are spankee people who can also get off with out a spanking. I like the term, but I also know that I can get off just with vanilla love making. I just prefer spankings.
I think some would class it as a fetish but It's not in the manner of the definition and most spankos do not need spanking for sexual gratification. So for me spanking it not a fetish.
Love,
Ronnie
xx
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