We all enjoy spanking, but the end result may be differerent for each of us. This question, which Bonnie first posted at a brunch back in 2008, is worth re-examining.
What is your favourite spanking outcome? A hot, red bottom? Wiping the slate clean of some infraction? Feeling closer to your partner? Erotic feelings? Reduction of tension and stress? Reassertion of dominance or submission? Something else?
Leave your reply as a comment below, and once everyone has had a chance to respond, I will publish and edited sumamry of our discussion.
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All of the above except for the clean slate since spankings here are all for fun.
No matter what the reason for the spanking, “a hot, red bottom” is a must.
At the beginning of my journey I scoffed at the idea that a visit to my Disciplinarian could “wipe the slate clean” but I decided to give it a try. There were two memories from my youth that always made me cringe with shame and guilt. I brought these memories to my Disciplinarian, one at a time, and received a severe punishment spanking for each. I was very surprised to discover that the guilt and shame that was always associated with the memories is no longer there. So, although punishment spankings are far from my favorite, I do appreciate the outcome.
My number one reason for seeking a spanking is to reduce “tension and stress”. Life can wind me up tight and a good spanking will reverse that nicely.
Erotic feelings for sure.
Liza
i like all the different emotions and outcomes from having been spanked but perhaps the most cherished is the feeling of reconnection. Spanking for stress reduction, or foreplay eliciting erotic feelings leading to playtime after, or simply a reminder of who's boss - all ultimately serve the same goal - helping us reconnect and establish our respective roles.
Pretty much all of the above, but greater intimacy and closeness top the list.
I'm with Emerging Lurker here. All my spankings are fun and erotic so, I love the hot, stinging, aching bottom and feeling oh so close to my wife and of course, feeling all revved up and ready to go.
Love, knowing my wife Love me. She initiated the spankings, reason, acting "stupid" at times, her words. She also said if I was a little boy, I would be over her lap and be getting a spanking. I laughed, bared my bottom, give it your best shot. My mistake and when she now said I need a spanking, I no longer laugh, I plead, beg. Always over her lap, she bares my bottom, or when I have gone to far, I'm sent to the bedroom, told to undress and wait. Waiting is what she determines. Those spankings are start and end with her bath brush. When she stops I dance around, I either face the wall in the kitchen or the front room, spanked the whole way. After a good hour or half hour I sit on her lap, squirming and she reminds me she loves me, and I totally agree. Steve
All of the above but top of my list is the closeness.
Love,
Ronnie
xx
Have to agree with Ronnie! It is all of the above and the closeness for me comes from
trusting her to take me to my knees and then lend me a hand to sanding again with
a better sense of what is truly important. I confess a bruised bottom a few days later
does arouse me with the memory of the moment.
thanks
peter
For me, a sound whipping or spanking provides an intense satisfaction similar in some respects to a glass of cold tart lemonade on a hot summer day.
Beyond that I seem to find it relaxing. My wife has taken to tying me down before a spanking, then leaving me to reflect on my "behavior" for a half hour or so. I've often fallen asleep- the only naps I ever take. She'll return, and we will take our sex games to the next level,
- Rosco
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