Monday, February 5, 2018

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 4

Everyday Spankings blogger Enzo asked for suggestions from you about online dating as it relates to spanking.

Amy: Hello there and you should so be talking to my cousin, Sara. I did the single thing for quite a time between my ex and Eric. I was on Match and a few others; all very vanilla but at that time, I didn't realize how non-vanilla I could be. Anyway, long story short, Sara has shown me some of the sites she's on and though she's never said anything about "spanking" she does have her fetishes. That said, she's on Tinder and loves it. Was created as a hook up site but people are very open on it as to what they are and are not looking for. I've seen many many many men advertising a dom and even a few sub positions on that site. Unlike Match, both parties swipe right if they are interested and you are only put in contact with each other if you both said yes. On Match, it's like asking for a date. Anyway, Sara has had quite a few good dates off of Tinder and she is a bit out there. People tend to be more straight forward on that site. She also likes Bumble. Same concept (both people must swipe) but if there is a match, only the girl can start a conversation. If you want to talk about spanking and you are on bumble, you can be pretty sure if you and a girl match AND she reaches out, you're on the same page. Again, as far as I know, Sara isn't into the spanking scene so I don't know about any other sites. Can only share what I've seen as she and I scroll around looking for someone she'd like.

Roz: This is a great question. I'm afraid I have no experience with online dating though so can't offer any advice.

Ronnie: Sorry can't help as I don't have any personal experience of online dating. One of our nephews met his wife through a dating site.

Anon 1: A best friend, she tried online dating, never again, it was a well- advertised site. The creep was just that, lucky they met in a very public space, she needed some help.

Hermione: I haven't had the questionable pleasure of experiencing online dating, so I can't give you any first-hand information. I'm not sure how soon you should declare your OTK interests, but as with all online relationships, be cautious. Amy has given you some good advice and a couple of ways to get started. Good luck!

Anon 2: Met current spankee via a spanking website. Most responses were cringe worthy but a few were sane. We have been together, in various stages, over 2 years now. Both of us emailed and talked quite a bit before meeting. We do care deeply about each other, in every way.

We are a few hours apart, so we physically get together several times per year.

Just be careful. Funny thing is, I did not want my trusting spankee so easily trusting at the start (when I did not know if she would seek others, too), and one of my self imposed rules is actually old fashioned, to show I am trust worthy. I required her first spanking be normally clothed, just otk on jeans. I told her I would freely let her up after, which I did. I wanted to reinforce that until she knew she could trust me, she would maintain the ability to abort the first meeting. She saw I was sincere, and 2 hours later, her bare bottom was doing a spanky dance over my knee. Been there dozens of times since.

Just take it slow. Meet in a public spot first. (We met at a restaurant btw, and I rented a B2b home a mile away).

Talk tons first. We covered everything that would occur regarding spanking before we met. While I am an extremely hard spanker, she also knows I have self imposed limits. No wandering hands, no using implements I think of as more S&M than spanking (such as the cane), no hitting anywhere except for the padded location w/o bones to break my spankee needs attention paid to. (Well I do spank the sit spot thoroughly, too).

Careful, careful, careful.
From Hermione's Heart


Enzo said...

Appreciate everyone taking the time to comment. Thanks to Amy for the detailed answer and all the very helpful information.
And of course, thank you Hermione, for hosting and allowing me the opportunity to put the question out there.


jilly said...

I’ve been reading your blog a while, and I was so glad to see you pop up here, too.