How does a harder than usual 'clear the cobwebs' spanking work for you?
Sir Wendel: The Misses has never asked for a spanking just for that reason. She will
get upset watching the news occasionally and start to rant about how
society has gone to hell. If the rants go on too long then I will spank
her bare bottom with the belt to quiet her down. After the spanking we
hug tightly until her tears go away.
Fondles: Oh me me me. I have been known to ask BIKSS for a proper ouchy spanking
(like A.J. we only spank for good times) and he always gives me what i
need - enough to get my mind off the stress and stop me fretting. Its
often the case that even without having to come right out and say it,
he’ll know from our text exchange during the day or conversations when a
more intense session is called for.
Yorkie: I am the spankee in our relationship and I call the shots. My wife is
like a human spanking machine in that she goes at it very
dispassionately and I hope, one day, that she will have some enjoyment
from it. She hates it but acknowledges my desire with grace and respect
but all the emotion and sexual energy derived from being spanked is all
mine and it is indeed a very rare day when a spanking is less than an
intense experience for me.
If I could not guarantee that intensity
then, at first, we would most likely try to keep up the activity but if
it yielded little to no reward then I suppose we would stop the
spankings. As my wife once said about not having any sexual
gratification from being spanked, "where's the fun in that". Even she can
see it. God bless her cotton socks.
Roz: I can't say we have specifically spanked for this reason. However there
have been a couple of occasions when stress has been high that a
maintenance spanking has had a little more behind it and the spanking
has had more emotion behind it.
BIKSS: As the spanker (
Fondles’ Daddy) in the relationship and one who had to,
in essence, be eased into the role, I often wondered if the spankings I
gave were “too soft” or “too hard”. I have to admit I took a bit of
time to be at ease with giving a spanking of increased intensity.
I
used to wait for a request for a “clear the cobwebs” spanking but I
think I’ve learned to read the signs and as Fondles said, the text
exchanges during the day usually gives me an indication of the kind of
spanking needed when we meet. It is something where I have had to step
up, take note of the signals and do what must be done. I’m just glad it
helps my lidl release some of the stress.
That said, these days I have been questioned as to whether I relish the high intensity spankings a little too much at times.
Anon: My wife will let me rant and rave for so long, she is the type that lets
it out at once and does not hold it, I on the other hand [do not let it go]. She has a
certain look and I no matter where we are at know full well I earned her
special spanking. The worse was my attitude at a class reunion, out of
town, certain individuals got on my nerve, especially a female who
could not stop talking about herself. Well three days of this and I
found myself over her lap, hotel room, that damn hairbrush, my bottom
was very red, sore, and that evening at dinner, thankful it was not a
group dinner, I was having trouble sitting, squirming, and of all
people, she came stopped by, nice conversation. Later in the room I
asked my wife how she could be so nice, she smiled, like most men you
were not listening, she mentioned you squirming and I just said you
should be squirming also.
Bonnie: Yes, absolutely. We call these stress relief spankings and I need them
from time to time. I ask only rarely. More often, a planned spanking
will morph into something more. Over the years, Randy and I have
developed an ability to read one another and adapt. If the spanking he
is delivering does not yield the desired results, he doesn't hesitate to
step up the intensity. I love this emotional rejuvenation. I crave
those stinging swats and the positive feelings they generate. Even when
I am screeching, I know that hard spankings are exactly what I want.
Rosco: I would say that spanking, and sexual activity more generally, are the
ultimate form of relaxation - how to escape from daily stress and
anxiety.
There are times when I crave a particularly long or hard
spanking. I mostly taunt Irene a bit as she’ll usually whip or paddle
my bottom until I’m pleading with her, promising to obedient and follow
all her rules. So it’s not too tough to get as intense a spanking as I
might want. (It always feels great at the time, but the tenderness over
the next several days is less fun.
Very often, I’m tied up
spanked, then left to ponder my behavior. Sometimes I’ll fall asleep -
which speaks to the relaxing aspect of submission. I rarely can nap
otherwise.
Finally I’d say reverse cowgirl cunnilingus, which
usually follows a spanking in our home, is the ultimate distraction. I’m
looking at Irene’s plump bottom and inch or two away, tasting and
smelling her pretty pussy as she gets increasingly aroused and
intermittently ravishes me with her fingernails.
It’s hard to worry about anything during these intense and blissful distractions.
Hermione: Most of my spankings clear the cobwebs for a while. But I'm afraid that A.J.'s suggestion of a much harder than usual spanking wouldn't have much effect. I would say that most of the ones I get are hard, and after a while my bottom becomes numb. Swats that were unbearable a few minutes earlier are suddenly like a nice massage. So prolonging or increasing the effort wouldn't make much difference. The only thing I can think of that would is the dressage whip. That's mighty fearsome, and I never get used to it.
Thank you all for joining in, and special thanks to A.J. for suggesting the topic. If you have a topic you would like to discuss at brunch, please let me know.