Sunday, June 30, 2019

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #285

2019 is now half over, but the best is yet to come (I hope). Let's ponder a question first posed by my good friend Bonnie a long time ago. Here it is in her own words:

What do you believe constitutes "topping from the bottom?" Have you or your partner ever done this? If so, how was the situation handled? Are there occasions where "topping from the bottom" is acceptable or even desirable?

If you would like to join our discussion, leave your response as a comment. This is a long weekend for us, but I will find time to publish an edited summary of our discussion.
From Hermione's Heart


Anonymous said...


I am definitely guilty of "topping from the bottom". I suspect most bottoms do it as well.

My wife and mistress have a 39-year relationship wherein almost all sex involves domination on her part and submission on mine. Sometimes we talk it out a bit in advance, sometimes we just try stuff.

She has her own desires and ideas, of course, but she also wants to please me. Sadly she is no mind reader.

But during the act, it is no fun as a submissive to give instructions. Sometimes I will give tell her in advance what I might like to try then act "shocked" when she does it. Other times I will write a note as though it is from another woman or girl telling her that I have been naughty and need discipline - for example my wife Irene might play Mrs Smythington, a teacher, and Laura and Nancy would write her a note that they'd caught me trying to peek up their skirts and suggest how I might be punished for it.



Yorkie69 said...

Well, when it comes to our activities I am always topping from the bottom as this is the arrangement we have and we are both happy with it. Having said that we do have a set system where we work in sets of twenty strokes or swats and I sask for more or give her a different implement. It works for us and I keep her welfare in mind as well as my own desires.


Roz said...

There have been a few occasions where I have taken charge in the bedroom. However, it always ended with Rick eventually taking back the reins.


Bonnie said...

I wrote a long answer back in 2007. I will be more concise this time. I can ask for anything and Randy will decide whether we do it. The only exception is during an actual spanking session when commentary earns me a longer and harder spanking. Afterward, he is open to suggestions and often files them away for future use.

Anonymous said...

I tried only once. She made it very clear that wasn't allowed.To bring home the point, instead of a weekly caning, I received it
nightly for ten days. At the end of ten days she gave me a week to choose if i cared to ever resume discipline and if that was
my choice the only words i would be allowed to utter ws Please and thank you.