Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 30

Happy Canada Day to all my Canadian readers! Before we all enjoy the fireworks to come, let's discuss topping from the bottom.

Rosco: I am definitely guilty of "topping from the bottom". I suspect most bottoms do it as well.

My wife and mistress and I have a 39-year relationship wherein almost all sex involves domination on her part and submission on mine. Sometimes we talk it out a bit in advance, sometimes we just try stuff.

She has her own desires and ideas, of course, but she also wants to please me. Sadly she is no mind reader.

But during the act, it is no fun as a submissive to give instructions. Sometimes I will give tell her in advance what I might like to try then act "shocked" when she does it. Other times I will write a note as though it is from another woman or girl telling her that I have been naughty and need discipline - for example my wife Irene might play Mrs Smythington, a teacher, and Laura and Nancy would write her a note that they'd caught me trying to peek up their skirts and suggest how I might be punished for it.

Yorkie: Well, when it comes to our activities I am always topping from the bottom as this is the arrangement we have and we are both happy with it. Having said that we do have a set system where we work in sets of twenty strokes or swats and I sask for more or give her a different implement. It works for us and I keep her welfare in mind as well as my own desires.

Roz: There have been a few occasions where I have taken charge in the bedroom. However, it always ended with Rick eventually taking back the reins.

Bonnie: I wrote a long answer back in 2007. I will be more concise this time. I can ask for anything and Randy will decide whether we do it. The only exception is during an actual spanking session when commentary earns me a longer and harder spanking. Afterward, he is open to suggestions and often files them away for future use.

Peter: I tried only once. She made it very clear that wasn't allowed. To bring home the point, instead of a weekly caning, I received it nightly for ten days. At the end of ten days she gave me a week to choose if I cared to ever resume discipline and if that was my choice the only words I would be allowed to utter were "please" and "thank you".

Hermione: Ron does not take kindly to instructions from me during a spanking. He either ignores them or actually does the opposite to what I am suggesting. I prefer not to interfere, but to submit completely and allow him to be in complete control. That pushes my submissive button in a big way.

Thanks for joining in this week's discussion!