Welcome back, dear friends. I hope you are all staying safe. Our restrictions are relaxing, but most people are still being very cautious, and masks are a must. Today's topic was first presented by our dear friend Bonnie over ten years ago. (How time flies!)
Is there one change that you have made that you would recommend to our readers? Specifically, how have you (and/or your partner) made spankings more effective, more enjoyable, or more a part of your lives? Are there any related tips you can offer?
Please leave your suggestions in a comment. I will publish an edited summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to contribute.
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I was curious to read what I wrote back at the turn of the last decade. I said something about not comparing your experience to others and finding your own path. Today, I advise readers to keep evolving and changing to keep the excitement in your relationship. In our case, change has taken the form of new fantasies, new toys, new technologies, and new rituals.
My wife has added more time waiting, either in the bedroom, or in the front room, Saids it gives her time to calm down and for me to think of what I did.
She has decided that calling her Mommy is just not enough and so after all spankings will put on my pajamas for the remaining part of the day and could go further like for several days. Come home from work, put on Jammies and then go to bed early. My mother-in-law gave her daughter a nice large bath brush, it really gets your attention. All spankings are still over her lap, will still be seen after a spanking facing the wall, and my mother-in-law at her home will do the spankings if needed. Jack
This is a great question. I totally agree with Bonnie on not camparing your relationship with others and finding your own way. Each couple needs to discover what works for them. I Would also say change things up with different positions, implements etc. If you follow the same pattern with every spanking it can become too predictable which can lead to unsatisfying for both partners.
Hugs
Roz
When I moved from the UK to The Netherlands in 1992 I was an uptight spanko, corporal punishment roll play only character. I rejected all other variations on BDSM and was determined to stay exclusively in that small bracket. Allowing impact only on my bottom and hands and only with traditional spanking implements. But living in The Netherlands and then Belgium, I found the spanko community to be limited and opened my self up to some BDSM play and never regretted doing that.
So my my change that I recommend, is being more broad minded and prepared to try new things.
Prefectdt
Getting my wife to spank me took years and she finally came around. I let her read a Fiona Locke book and she said she understood more about what I wanted and just reading it got her wet. that was a big step. But still took more time and patience on my part and encouragement. Now my wife will bring up the spanking subject if we are driving down the road, saying that what I just did or said was a spankable offense or I haven't spanked you in quite a while and you have been naughty. We have spanking implements around the house that are just normal things such as a cutting board with a handle in the kitchen or a long handled shoe horn in the living room, bedroom and in our camper. And yes, they all get used to great effect on a regular basis. My wife does tune up my bottom on a regular basis when she knows I need it or when I want it. So that is how it happened in my life.
Answering first for my wonderful wife Irene, who’s now a senior citizen in great health and sexy as ever. Irene does not have strong wrists and sometimes would lose her grip on certain spanking implements. I found her a two tailed tawse at Caneiac that has a ROUND handle. Problem solved.
As for me, I need to clear my head of distractions for a bit before I can really enjoy a spanking, especially work stuff .
And, at our house, spankings always include a bit of lecture about some fictitious bad behavior, and sometimes bondage or a foot massage.
- Rosco
As others have said. Change things up. Communicate with each other about trying role play if you haven't already and try new positions/implements.
Love,
Ronnie
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