What part does vocalizing play in your spankings? Is it possible to refrain from it?
A.J. When she is over my knee I think it's important to hear her and listen for the clues as to whether I'm spanking her properly. An "Umm", "Yes", or "More...faster", tells me something; "OW!" tells me something completely different.
When the roles are reversed, I don't think I'd be the only male to not be so vocal, because, well...the penis! Ownership of one implies you gotta take a bit more. To a point. Life's a bitch, sometimes.
That said, with one exception, no woman who has ever had me OTK took me that far.
A "handkerchief or towel"? Never used or need one, so I have no experience to relate.
As I have said before, I only play with spanking for the sheer sexiness of it. "Punishment" is not my thing. Bright-pink bottoms that lead to other "entertainments", well - YEAH!
Simon: My Mistress prefers me to take my punishment quietly so unless I'm told to count the strokes I normally suffer in silence although the occasional stroke in the wrong place (too high or too low) may result in a grunt. I don't punish ladies that often and the ladies I do punish are all quite stoical so make very little noise, I sometimes wonder what it would be like to punish a vocal lady, after all in videos the young ladies tend to make a lot of noise. I've been lucky enough to punish a lady who makes videos and who is very vocal in them but despite my best efforts I couldn't get a peep out of her. When we talked afterwards she explained that over reaction is expected in most films but that it seemed a bit like cheating in real life.
Roz: Rick prefers vocal reactions as a gauge so I can't recall having to be quiet. I tend to grunt more than anything, but there have been the odd occasions we were worried the neighbours might bang down the door lol.
Amy: Always worried about kids and neighbors, I'm usually silent in the closet or over his knee in our room. However, his telltale sign is when I put my hand back. That's how he knows he's got me.
Jan: Hi Hermione, I couldn't keep quiet if I tried.
Fondles: I could probably stay quiet-ish, except for maybe intakes of breath (or
loud exhalations...) but i suspect the sounds i make gives BIKSS an idea
of how much pain I'm experiencing, and he can adjust his swats
accordingly if he chooses to.
Arched one: We have been lucky in that we have always lived where our house is some
distance from our neighbors so no fear of them hearing. Robyn loves to
hear the ouches and ows when spanking me as she then knows she is doing a
good job and when the feet start kicking she knows I'm paying
attention. Never used gags as she loves the sounds I make.
Jack: Being heard, my wife states as her hands or hairbrush lands on my bottom,
I should have not done what I did to get a spanking. Trust me, with
what ever she uses to redden and warm my bare bottom I cannot help but
be heard.
Wilma: If we are at home- which is 99% of the time, I am pretty much silent.
Silent that is if you don't count hissing. When we have gone away, I
can be as loud as I like. I have to say it does make it much easier to
let go when I don't have to concentrate on keeping quiet.
P: Because our kids spend Friday nights at my parents home, it is on Friday night that I am punished. It never stops until she sees tears and hears begging for it to stop!
Katie: I'm not that loud during a spanking. Probably because we used to have
more kids home, and had to be quiet. I definitely come out with some
"OWWWW HONEY" vocals, etc. Depends on the spanking, and whether our
daughter is home re: the decibels in response to the attention to my
bottom.
KB: I'm pretty quiet but if I was told I had to be quiet I don't think I could!
Yorkie: I'm usually silent because we have kids (all adults now though) and I
don't want to frighten her but have been getting a bit more vocal, to a
limit, lately. I've had to as due to our circumstances we've had to
keep the spankings short and sweet so I told her to make them harder
which means white knuckles grabbing the bed sheets and just a little
water in the eyes. Fantastic!
Ronnie: Hard to keep quiet. If I'm told to be quiet I have to stuff my mouth with some of the duvet.
Hermione: Last Saturday afternoon Ron was administering a very effective spanking, using his usual assortment of noisy paddles. I was verbally announcing the effect they were having on my bottom. All of a sudden Ron stopped and said, "I forgot to close the window." Our bedroom is close to the house next door, and while our neighbour probably wasn't outside, she might have been. Her other neighbour often comes over to help her with yard work. What if they were both outside, listening?
I immediately suppressed all my squeaks and squeals. I figured that she wouldn't know what the slapping sounds were. I could always say Ron was building something and she had heard various hammers. But no way would she understand why she was hearing "Ow, ow, ow, OW!" So I pressed my lips together firmly and held back the sounds.
It was harder than I thought and took quite a lot of willpower to stay silent. I almost stuffed a bit of the bedspread into my mouth but thought of the dog hair on it and changed my mind. Besides being difficult to suppress my sounds, I felt it wasn't as gratifying to Ron. He didn't know what I was feeling since my verbal cues were missing. Nevertheless, he managed to deliver a thorough spanking.
Thank you all for sharing your thoughts on the topic. See you again soon!