Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for April 8

This week we discussed men who act like little boys and women who discipline them accordingly.


Amy: Sorry to hear about the passing of Aunt Kay. I never read her stuff but am thankful to anyone who promotes being able to live authentically in the lifestyle that fits one best. Speaking of, in answer to your question, Eric and I don't switch roles and we've discussed it often but realize it wouldn't work for us. More power to those it does work for though!

Tari Cabbot: I am the same, I never knew her, but would like to celebrate her and her work for making it easier for people who now follow in her footsteps.

Dan: Aunt Kay's Disciplinary Wives Club introduced me to the whole concept of adult spanking for disciplinary purposes. I never met her personally, yet she had a pretty profound impact on my life.

If my wife responded to this question, I don't think she would say she enjoys it when her husband acts childishly, but she does enjoy being able to do something very concrete about it. Personally, I don't think the impetus for me is about wanting to be treated like a naughty little boy, though it probably does have some aspects of that. It's more about being held accountable by someone who has the will and authority to enforce the rules.

Sir Wendel: The misses is not into the whole childish behavior thing and I have never gotten a spanking for being childish. When she has a girl’s night out I will get paddled severely so that I “behave” while she is gone. I will do things that bother her in hopes of getting spanked and usually it works.

Roz: Hi Hermione, I am not familiar with Aunt Kay either, but am grateful for anyone who promotes living a life style right for them. We have playfully and very lightly switched roles on the very odd occasion. However not in a naughty boy type scenario.

Bogey: There are both men and women who can not or will not control their behavior and expect to be punished to atone for their "childish" behavior. Spankings do not correct the behavior as it keeps happening again and again - sometimes on purpose.

I can not understand why anyone would want to live with someone who can not or will not control themselves.

Jackie: Men have sexual desires or needs that we women have been asked to make come true, it is just the nature of things. If the males knew the desires of the female it would surprise them. Today males are marrying males and females marrying females, they must be a reason. So as to a male wanted to be treated like a naughty little boy and the female accepts that, it is between them and does not concern others, each to their own. My husband while dating when asked by me his sexual desires, he finally said spankings, and said sex was not a part when spanked. He dreamed of being spanked by older women, dating he would tell them, most just were not into that, not a problem, if the whole world was the same it would be a boring world. This female really enjoys being called Mommy, there is the need that we females have that “Motherly” desire. So yes Joe my husband does get spankings, yes he will call me Mommy when a spanking is needed. My spankings hurt, just ask him. Our sex life is outstanding, but he admits there are times he wishes to act like a naughty little boy, and at those times I will be his Mommy and spank my naughty little boy. What he does not like the most is when he has earned a spanking and we are not at home. I have spanked him at hotels, once on the side of the road, others could not see, and on a few occasions visiting my Mother a trip to the bedroom, hates that. Afterwards he must stand facing the corner, in the front room or kitchen, bare bottom on display. My mother was shocked at first, but when she gave me this nice large hair brush I knew she understood. So each to their own, don’t judge others, judge yourself.

Anon 1: I’m the one who wrote the topic suggestion. Each of us has some desire, mine is a spanking. It was very hard to share, even when asked and I would tell her, nothing would come of it, so I stopped sharing. I after a time and dating older women, I found them more understanding and a couple of them did spank me. The last woman, older, said I needed to find a woman my age, she knew of such a person. She introduced me to her and also brought up the spankings. We went out the next evening, great dinner, learned about her and shared more of myself. She asked about the spankings and said she understood. We dated, went to bed several times, sex life was great. It was not until I did something childish that she decided a spanking was needed. She explained no sex afterwards, I would address her as Mommy and do as told. That first spanking she lowered my pants and then underpants, scolded me like a child and that spanking hurt like hell. I danced around the room, rubbing, and when told to stop, she smiled and said is this what you want in our relationship and still rubbing said yes. We have been married three years, the spankings are real, really hurt, but is what I need. She has stated that women becomes wives and mothers to their husbands, just a fact, some wives nag, and for her, giving me a spanking is so much better.

Red: We do not believe in spanking children, so none of our spankings are role play or for being childish.

I enjoy being spanked like many people do, and we use this dynamic to make our sex life even better, and to solve small irritations in married life. When spanked, the person has to try their best not to repeat the problem. We now rarely if ever argue, and we have a method to solve problems. A magnificent win win scenario

Katie: So sorry about Aunt Kay. I too did not know of her. Sounds like she did great work for the good of the community.

Rob and I don't switch up roles. I have teased him about once or twice about spanking him. He reminds me that there is only one spanker in this marriage, and he is it! I SO love Love LOVE being his spankee... most of the time. HA!

Windy: I am so sorry about your friend, Hermione.

Within the dynamic of my relationship with Storm (Hubby), if I acted this way, we would consider it bratting, which would be a problem. But, I imagine some like to play in such a way if it works for them.

I have a memory of when I was little of some husbands calling their wives "Mother." Perhaps it was because they had children and the man just got used to calling her that because the kids did. Or maybe it was an old fashioned way of speaking in the 70's.

Whether we realize it or not, we often "mother" our husbands. I mean that in the best light possible. I am not (obviously) Storm's mother, but as his wife I nurture him (almost typed neutered -- wouldn't THAT be a different topic). But, I do not hold authority over him in any way. Quite the reverse.

Yorkie: I never read any of Aunt Kay's material. It is sad when someone so influential, so helpful to a large number of people does pass on.

Both my wife and I are adults and neither one of us need to be corrected or punished by the other nor do we desire to be, especially me and I am the one receiving all our spankings. I want her to do it because it turns me on. I enjoy it.

Additionally she would not want to be married to me if I did desire to be treated like a naughty boy.

Each to their own but it's not for us.

A.J.: I've always had a rough time wrapping my head around "naughty boy/girl" or "Mother/mommy/daddy" scenes or talk.

Worse, when it is done in public by married adults - it makes me squirm (Mike Pence, who looks like he's about to apologize for molesting altar boys, calls his wife "Mother" and that freaks me out plenty.)

In a play scene (which is all we ever do)...? No. Not even there. It just seems...I don't know.

I'm an adult male. I'm not "naughty" like I stole cookies before dinner or left my bike on the sidewalk again. I can be careless, glib, speak out of turn, etc. all of which may earn me the "wait-til-we-get-home eye", but never naughty boy (or girl). After hearing her out - and my expressing regret - there MAY be a spanking, but it is with smiles and not "punishment".

But...that's me/us.

Hermione: I can't add anything personally to the conversation, because I am always on the receiving end, and it's never for punishment or for being naughty. But thank you to everyone who responded. I hope this blog is an open, welcoming place for all those interested in spanking, no matter what the reason.