Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 24

This week I asked several questions about how closely spanking and sex were related for you. Here's what you said:

A.J.: "How important is spanking to you in relation to sex?" Very. And always. I don't do 'punishment' spanking, so.... OTK bare-bottom spanking, giving or receiving, is extremely erotic, and the #1 reason I'M 1,000% AGAINST SPANKING KIDS!

"Is a physical spanking necessary to put you in the mood?" No; but it's a turn-on 'fer sure!

"What about reading erotica or watching spanking videos? Are they a "must-have" or a "nice to have" for successful completion of bedroom activities?" Not necessary at all. But talking to her and hearing her little perversions/thoughts/turn-ons is pretty hot.

"Are spanking fantasies playing in your head before or during the act?" No. It's more like sex fantasies are playing in my head during a spanking.

That help?


Bonnie: How important is spanking to you in relation to sex? - It's really hard for me to separate them, so I'm not sure how to respond. Spanking is very important, sex is too, and they go together.

Is a physical spanking necessary to put you in the mood? - Spankings are the direct route to arousal, but not necessary the only one.

What about reading erotica or watching spanking videos? Are they a "must-have" or a "nice to have" for successful completion of bedroom activities? - We enjoy spanking media, but they are no substitute for the real thing.

Are spanking fantasies playing in your head before or during the act? - Sometimes. The best fantasies are the ones we can make real. We are very fortunate to get that opportunity. You mentioned before and during the act, but intense memories afterward can feed the next round of fantasies.

Fondles: 1) How important is spanking to you in relation to sex? - I would like it to be a part of every session, but it's not necessary. 2) Is a physical spanking necessary to put you in the mood? - Not necessary, but a really quick way to get there. 3) What about reading erotica or watching spanking videos? - Usually done when I'm on my own, not a norm for 2-person encounters. 4) Are spanking fantasies playing in your head before or during the act? - Nope. Talking about a particular spanking or reminiscing could help get us both a little more randy tho. Again, fantasising is usually something that happens when I'm going at it solo, not so much when I'm with BIKSS.

Yorkie: How important is spanking to you in relation to sex?
Inextricably linked for sure. I cannot think of spanking as anything BUT sexy.

Is a physical spanking necessary to put you in the mood?
Nope. But it sure does supercharge it!

What about reading erotica or watching spanking videos?
Reading erotica for sure but I am a bit picky. Videos? It depends but mostly I imagine me the one being spanked. If it's a hard spanking then the more it intrigues me.

Are they a "must-have" or a "nice to have" for successful completion of bedroom activities?
Definitely a nice to have. Not a must have.

Are spanking fantasies playing in your head before or during the act?
Usually before and then once the spanking begins the fantasy is fulfilled.

Roz: Spanking for us usually occurs prior to sex. However, not always. Spanking isn't always necessary to get us in the mood for sex.

Anon: Thinking of getting a spanking during sex helps, I’ve often wonder what my partner is thinking of. This is a very good question and so yes thinking of getting a spanking from the one I’m presently having sex with or a few times other women come to mind. It can be no harm, she is getting my full attention and isn’t sexual activity really a lot of unknowns.

Amy: If Eric throws a spanking in before or even during sex, it's different than if we just make love. We like the mix things up so it's a "nice to" but not necessarily a "need to".


Hermione: For me, it isn't possible to become aroused without thoughts of spanking. During a  spanking I always lubricate; my body knows what it likes! Most foreplay doesn't arouse me, although it is very nice to have that closeness. Often, if I know beforehand that we are going to be intimate, I will find the opportunity to pick up one of my spanking novels and reread a favourite passage or two to get me in the mood. Without the mental spanking scenes playing in my mind, orgasm is virtually impossible. It isn't only physical stimulation that gets me off; it must be accompanied by the mental images. Spanking for me is a real fetish.

Thank you all for your responses to this week's topic.