When did things not go according to plan, or an opportunity was missed?
Penelope: When I first tried to get hubby to do some spanking... oh, my gosh, you
want to talk about awkward! I couldn't say it out loud, of course. So I
blabbed out a bunch of nonsense in a letter, spent a week (at least)
avoiding eye contact and when we eventually did get around to trying, I
spent the whole time trying to shush him (didn't want the whole house to
hear and it sounded like thunder in my ears), he didn't want to overdo
it, so it was barely up to porn level spanking and the whole thing just
ended in a fit of giggles. It was YEARS before I tried again.
I
also have a missed opportunity. I met this great guy once, he was
renting a room in my father's house. When I stayed to house sit for a
couple years while my dad was living with his aging parents, I came to
know this guy pretty well. He was great with my only child at the time.
He drove me to the hospital when I went into labor with my second child.
He was new to Canada from Egypt, and would always as me what the proper
way to say something was. Like, "You have nice thighs," was actually
meant to be, "You have a nice ass." So we just had a lot of fun
together.
Anyway... we, uh, ended up at a hotel with my brother and
his girlfriend on Valentine's day. I remember hiding in the bathroom
calling my brother's room cuz I was nervous as a cat on a hot tin roof
and was hurrying them along so we could go to dinner. This guy seemed
more interested in having me for dinner! No, I wasn't scared, I wasn't
in any danger or anything like that, but he was probably more man than I
was ready to handle. I think I was about 26 at the time. After dinner,
we all made our way back to our rooms... As we got off the elevator, he
scooped me up, literally threw me over his shoulder, and I gotta say, it
was probably one of the best nights (sexually) that I've EVER had. The
following weekend, I was head over heels in love with my hubby and
though me and the other guy stayed pretty good friends for awhile, we
eventually drifted. I just wonder what would have happened if I'd
realized at the time what his feelings were for me. I thought we were
just having some fun.
Wendel: One of the awkward moments for me was when I first started working. We
had a woman in our department who always talked about the crazy sex
stuff she did with her husband. One was that she had to buy wrist straps
with quick release buckles to get free when the husband fell asleep
after sex. Another morning she came in walking crooked. She explained
that her husband whipped her butt before sending her to work. The woman
was not shy about showing marks and hiked up her skirt so we could see
the damage. I can say that he did a good job.
I do not remember
exactly what I said to convince the Misses to take the first spanking.
Fate would have it that the Misses enjoys it as much I do.
Doug: When I first requested that my vanilla wife spank me, it was not well
received. She did not like me spanking her, even gently, and thought it
should be mutual. It was not. Finally, I revealed to her that I went
from “spanking-adverse” to “spanking-attracted” as a young child. I
found it surprising, but true. I thought there was something wrong with
me psychologically, and I certainly did not want anyone to know about
it. (There was no Internet then to calibrate my understanding.) I was
afraid I would lose her respect, but I underestimated her; I did not.
Eventually, we worked out an arrangement in which she would paddle me on
a regular basis – hard enough to generate genuine pain, to satisfy my
perceived need for such. She only does it “because she loves me,” and I
love her for it.
Roz: In our case we were fortunate in that we both had an interest in
spanking so talking about it happened fairly easily. The most awkward
moment was the first discipline spanking after we decided we wanted to
extend spanking beyond play and incorporate DD. Neither of us were quite
sure how to go about it lol.
Dan: This probably isn't squarely on point, but for us, the "it didn't go
well" part really applies only to erotic spankings. I don't really
recall exactly how I proposed experimenting with spanking, but it
definitely was me who introduced it. She initially was game for it.
From the beginning, it had a "disciplinary" component, but it was just
playacting. She would pretend to be in control and would give me "play"
spankings, with a flimsy leather paddle, for real offenses. We were
both pretty young at the time, and I had some maturity issues. The way
it played out was she got wise to the fact that she was basically doing
something I wanted, i.e erotic spankings, as a response to real
offenses. In other words, she was reinforcing bad behavior. She put an
end to those spankings.
A few months later, I stumbled on the
Disciplinary Wives Club website. That was the first time I'd even heard
of using spankings for actual adult discipline. For some reason,
bringing that form of spanking up to her was way, way more awkward than
suggesting we play around with erotic spankings. I think it was
probably about the fact that the latter didn't involve any real power
exchange or rearrangement of any kind of hierarchy, while the former was
a real change in the relationship dynamics. I really thought she might
be turned off by the whole thing. I still remember in vivid detail how
awkward it was talking to her about it. Surprisingly, she was again
game to try it, and this time it did go well.
Other than that,
there have been no "didn't go well" or missed opportunities around
spanking. I was one of those odd instances of someone who didn't
discover my spanking interest until pretty late, in my mid-30s. Until
then, I had no inkling that adult spanking was even a thing.
Anon: I have a couple missed opportunities from early in my career. When I
first started working there was a beautiful girl with an amazing body my
age who worked in another department. We used to flirt with each other a
lot in the hallways, but we were both seeing other people. One day I
need to make a photo copy and the machine was in its own room. When I
got to the hallway in front of the door she was coming out. We said
hello and then I went in only to find a sign that said the machine was
out of order. I went back out and she was in the hallway giggling. As I
approached her, I asked why she didn't save me the trip. She just stood
there smiling but her hands were on her bottom like she was protecting it. I
figured what the hell and walked up to her and told her she was a bad
girl and pretended to spank her. She just giggled even more. Soon after I
got a new job and I never did get a chance to give her a proper
spanking.
At another job I had my first opportunity to be a
supervisor, I had this young woman named Jane working for me who prided
herself on never making any mistakes. I had her do as series of
calculations for me that were very complicated. When I reviewed them one
did not make any sense until I went back and redid it. When I showed
Jane that she made a simple calculating mistake, not at all a big deal,
she looked at me and said "I am sorry, you can spank me if you want to"
I
must admit I did not handle the opportunity like they do in the
spanking stories but got all flustered and told her that would not be
necessary.
My third story of missed opportunity was when I was
starting another job and filling out the paperwork. I was about 30 at
the time but looked about 20 years old. The secretary in the HR
department must have thought I was just starting out when in reality I
was going to be head of a department. There were tons of forms that
basically asked for the same information over and over and I was getting
tired of the process and needed to get to a meeting with my new boss. I
asked the secretary if I signed the forms if she would fill them out
for me as I was in a hurry. She looked at me and said that was not her
job and if I did not fill them out correctly she was going to spank me. I
said okay and finished them up myself. I then decided to brat her a
little and she threaten to spank me a couple more times before I was
finished. When I was all done I gave her the completed paperwork and she
told me I was a good boy and she was happy she did not have to carry
out her threats. I smiled and left. Later I saw her and she came up to
me all white and said she did not realize I was the new vice president
and she hoped she had not offended me. I told her I thought it was all
in good fun and she did what she needed to do to get me to do the
paperwork and for her not to give it a second thought. I still wonder to
this day if I should have pushed her a little more?
A.J.: "...tried to interest a partner in spanking, but it didn’t go well."
I
always thought my interest in spanking girls was worthy of PRISON! So
evil and deranged I buried it internally and never spanked any girl,
even in jest. Eventually I dated a beautiful woman who tricked me into
spanking her. She later told me she never brought up spanking because
she was afraid I would think she was a pervert. And then I told her I
never mentioned it because I was afraid she would think the same of me!!
Life got very good.
But bringing it up is as DELICATE an act as you can get.
The next woman I merely HINTED it to gave me a look and said she could never do that.
Another, again with the tiniest of HINTS, reacted strong and loud that spanking as sex play was PERVERTED!
OK. Message sent!
A
3rd wasn't a "Yes!", but wasn't a "No!" either. It was a timid and
reluctant, "Well...OK. If it's not hard." I spanked her otk and
lightly, and she was OK with it. Later I asked her to spank me - and
she did! We spanked each other after that, but for every one I gave
her, she gave me 2-3. All were fun (I don't do or take punishment-level
spanking) and always led to sexy-time.
As for "...stories where an opportunity was missed with thoughts of what might have been."
I
was seeing this terrific girl and KNEW she was wild and adventurous.
One day (while sunbathing nude on the deck of my beach house) she asked
what turned me on and I said spanking and, "Would you be willing to
spank me?"
SURE!!!!!
And she did! And then let me spank her.
After
some sexy-time she asked me what other top-fantasy I would love to
have. One where the woman I'm with is upset because I was sexually
"inattentive," and take me to her favorite disciplinarian to correct
that. Where I get spanked in front of her. Followed by the
disciplinarian ordering me to "do" the girlfriend right there and then,
while she "supervises" with a strap in her hand for "encouragement."
In a dry-mouthed husky voice I never heard outside of a Hollywood horror movie, she stares right at me and said, "I would so do that."
I was stunned.
She
then got on her iPhone, opened up her photos, and began looking at her
friends trying to find one she thought could be the disciplinarian. With
me looking on and commenting with her! Talk about a day!!!
The bad part? Timing, logistics, schedules all got in the way and it never happened. And you asked ...what might have been!" (Sigh.....)
Prefectdt: Tried it with two vanilla partners, long ago. Same result from both. Immediate end to any relations, emotional and physical.
Midwest Reader: About a million years ago in college I had my first real girlfriend and
playtime partner. We were very attracted to each other but didn't get
along very well. One night during playtime she was annoyed at me and
gave me a few spanks. She sensed pretty quickly that I was not opposed
to her doing so. A bit later on another night in similar circumstances
she said, "one of these days I am going to give you a real spanking", to
which I was so flustered I could only reply "that would be
interesting". Unfortunately we parted ways shortly after that and her
promise was never carried out :-(
(In retrospect with greater
understanding I realize that I was the cause of much of the not getting
along, and that my remembrance of that is part of my subconscious desire
to be taken in hand. What would have happened if I had recognized that
at the time I can't say, but I don't think I had the concepts to
understand at the age of 20.)
Rosco: I am honored again that Hermione is inspired by my suggestion.
My
first (not awkward) experience came about by accident. A girl and I were
play wrestling/flirting and she kicked me between the legs. Not hard,
but hard enough. We were on the beach (it was night), so I bent her into
diaper position and gave her semi-protected bottom (she was wearing
short shorts) several sharp slaps. I would have done it longer but
thought she might freak out or others nearby would hear. But she kicked
me again, so I spanked her again - a bit longer. Then we repeated a
third time. This all led to my first make out session and then to third
base. But sadly, I never saw her after that night.
A couple of
years later I had my first real girlfriend. She bragged she was
adventurous, so I asked her if she would spank me. She turned me down in
a way that set me back for years.
Eight years later, I had a
girlfriend with a wonderfully chubby bottom. On a whim one day, I pulled
up her skirt and spanked her. Her response was "I don't think I like
that", but she said it nicely. She must have told one of her friends,
because a bit later the friend threatened to spank me with a hockey
stick (I sadly failed to respond appropriately).
One year after
that I met the woman who I would marry. She had no interest in being
spanked but would be happy to try to spank me. It took a few times for
her to understand I wanted a serious spanking. Now, forty years later, I
think she likes dishing it our more than I like getting it.
Hermione: My first boyfriend and I were talking to a mutual friend, and I forget the subject, but the friend came out and said, "Maybe you should spank her" to my boyfriend. I practically went into shock. Later, I tried to bring up the subject but wasn't very articulate about it and it never happened.
Thank you all for revealing those encounters.
Glory to Ukraine
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