Was Carrie Anne Carrying On?

Every time I hear the song Hey Carrie Anne by the Hollies on our Oldies radio station, I am struck by the possibilities hinted at in the first verse:

When we were at school our games were simple
I played a janitor, you played a monitor
Then you played with older boys and prefects
What's the attraction in what they're doing


Hey Carrie Anne, what's your game now, can anybody play

Do you suppose Carrie Anne was the spankee? By a boy playing the part of a janitor?


Or maybe she was the spanker. After all, she was a prefect.



But then the song continues:

You lost you're charm as you were aging
Where is your magic disappearing?

Oh, Carrie Anne! How you've changed!

The song concludes:

People live and learn, but you're still learning
You use my mind and I'll be your teacher
When the lesson's over, you'll be with me
Then I'll hear the other people saying


Hey Carrie Anne, what's your game now, can anybody play

So the janitor is now teaching Carrie Anne a lesson?

Naughty Words

A recent article in a daily Canadian newspaper said that women like it when men "talk dirty" to them during intimate activities, and that some men try, but don't do it very well. What I found remarkable was the frequency of statements that I perceived to be refreshingly non-vanilla.

The author did a little survey of friends and found that women do like to hear naughty words, but rarely did. One woman said that once she found a man who used them "the kinky dialogue that ensued made her feel more sexually confident than ever."

"Pleasure begins in the brain and... [talking dirty] operates within the realm of fantasy, and fantasy is the match to the fire."


Part of talking dirty can involve theatrically using the language of degradation. Men raised by feminists may have a problem with this, but there shouldn't be one "if it's what a woman wants to hear." A conversation about pornography may turn to "the idea of a woman being tied up or spoken to in a humiliating fashion should not be arousing, and yet there are women who are turned on by that... It's sometimes the woman who wants to be playfully humiliated who takes the risk in asking."

I especially like the way the article ends.

"The key word in role play is play...And what if you try to play and your girlfriend tells you you're bad at it? Well, then, maybe you have the wrong playmate. Or you could ask her if she needs to be punished for that."

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for June 20

Our MBS brunch topic this week was roleplay for beginners. Here's what you said:

Naomi - I have nothing to contribute! I am one of those that would like to try and will benefit from the responses to the question. (And it is a great question indeed!)

I hope you find your inspiration here.

Todd and Suzy - A good way to start is for the spankee to share a misdeed from her past. It can be something she got in trouble for (even spanked) or something she got away with. Examples we've used are... lying to a teacher, getting in a fight at school, shoplifting a sweater, being a bad baby-sitter... to more adult things like cussing at a bank teller and breaking a traffic law. Make it something you're both comfortable with both age wise and role wise.

Then the spanker gives the spanking that should have (or did) occurred for the misdeed. He can assume the actual role (teacher, cop, etc)... or he can be himself and still scold about the naughtiness of it all and how a spanking is still owed.

Doing it this way gives spanker and spankee easy to understand roles. It doesn't feel silly and you don't get lost trying to figure out what to do. Getting too complex or too made up are pitfalls to avoid early on.

Of course, this is all for a more discipline feeling roleplay spanking... though it's easy enough to make the actual spanking playful or erotic.

Good topic!

HerKnee - I might be interested in trying role play but I've always been of the opinion that it just seems too phony.

For us at least so far it's all real, if it's just for stress relief, maintaining discipline or actual punishment.

Frankly at this point, I'm not really sure if I want to give up reality for a game with TTWD. We'll see, I never like saying never.

Welcome, HerKnee!

Our Bottoms Burn - I think women are better at role play than men. Think back, girls had their dolls in all sort of roles, including getting spanked. Boys tend to action, not words.

I think some of my most memorable spankings were when Becall jumped into a role and I was able to pick it up and go with it.

If you ever wanted to try it, just do it. Don't try to write a script, just wing it.

A-Non - I don't have any real experience to add, just some ideas about how roleplay appeals to me.

I am not a big fan of elaborate roleplay. I do not care to pretend to be the naughty cheerleader or private school student in a short skirt, being punished in the principal's office. Any roleplay has to be a near-extension of my real life.

However, I might consider dressing up as a pure fantasy figure like Wonder Woman if I were to be in the role as spanker! That would give me some confidence to be the spanker that I am not!

Ronnie - I hope there's some tea left in the pot Hermione :)

We've tried roleplay in the past and I didn't find it easy to just switch on. I like leather and equestrian, P likes discipline and institutions (educational types), he hasn't shared some of my preferences in the past and likewise (I used to hate the idea of roleplay involving schoolgirls, cheerleaders etc because of the age thing but I've overcome that by being an adult student. Ahem...).

Overall I think the best spanking is when it comes naturally for good reasons without any roleplay. But variety is the spice of life and I think roleplay has its place as long you both want to take part, so in my opinion talk it through thoroughly first, how, where, what you want to happen, and try to agree unspoken signals that will trigger it, so that both sides know what's coming and can prepare and enjoy it fully, without having to discuss it. E.g., ''Right I'm going to be your tutor now and I'm not pleased with your work, in fact I intend to spank you so go and put some sensible knickers on and a skirt and blouse...etc etc...'' wouldn't work with me at all if I'd been deeply involved with work issue all day and wasn't in that mindset, but if I knew it was coming because of some pre-arranged signal it would be different, I'd look forward to it and build towards it and vice-versa.

Great question, thanks Hermione.

R Humphries - Hi Guys … Another delightful topic … our activities are almost exclusively conducted in role-playing mode, we do not have a domestic discipline or D/s relationship (although I can assure you that I am Master of my domain and all that I survey … or something like that) … I am fortunate that my long-term partner is of a theatrical bent and finds it easy to fall in to character … for us it works as we are now comfortable in our alter-personalities and can take them on relatively effortlessly which gives as the time and opportunity to savor the whole drama of the experience … I would strongly recommend that you experiment with different themes until you find something you are comfortable with … for us it makes spanking what we want it to be … gloriously good fun … enjoy yourselves.

Scunge - I like role-play at spanking parties but have not yet to try it with My Sir. We might try it someday but we have fun yes and some discipline without role-play now.

Prefectdt - I have found that one thing that I do when role playing helps me and may help others but I have to admit it sounds a bit daft at first. The advice is.....

Do bad impressions

I have particularly found this useful when I am required to switch, as I am not a natural Top and acting like one does not come easily. At times like these I try to take on the persona of John Cleese and/or Mr Mackay, from the TV comedy series Porridge. I have never done either of these well enough for anyone to cotton on that I am doing impressions but the resulting character that comes out seems to work well for when I have to play the role of a strict spanker.

Thomas - Having done my fair share of roleplay, including acting in my own spanking videos, I guess I can step forward. For me, I find that I can easier step into the role because I'm naturally drawn to all segments of spanking, and because I'm somewhat able to think in the moment. Roleplay is all about improvisation. Unfortunately, improvisation isn't something that you can really learn. It comes with being comfortable in the role that you're playing. While I might be comfortable in any spanker role, simply because I'm somewhat worldly and know enough about things in general that I can usually wing it, others might not. So, I'd say that the first rule is to stick to roles that you're comfortable in. If you feel out of sorts if you're trying to play a schoolgirl, then don't. Play a role that you know and can relate to and you'll bring authenticity to the role.

I think that I also have a slight leg up on others simply because I'm fond of roleplaying in general, not just for spanking. I've played Dungeons and Dragons with my friends, and slip into the role of warrior or wizard when I need to. I'm also familiar with online roleplay, where my extensive vocabulary and point of view have made me quite popular in some chatrooms. Again, since I'm familiar with the actual act of spanking in real life, I'm better able to roleplay online because I know what perspective to come from. It really isn't much different roleplaying in person, either, except that it's the perspective of the role that you're really focusing on, since the spanking side will come naturally.

Hermione - We don't do roleplay (yet), but your responses have been very helpful, and I intend to think about trying some of them in the near future.

Bonnie will be back next week and will once more be hosting brunch, so thank you for coming to visit. I enjoyed having you here, and hope you will drop in anytime.

MBS Spanko Brunch #231

I'm delighted to be able to help Bonnie with brunch on this Father's Day weekend. Here's a question that I've recently wondered about, so I'm passing it along to you for your consideration.

What advice do you have for someone who would like to try adding roleplay to a spanking session? Do you have any suggestions for starting out? How did you get started? Are there pitfalls to be avoided, that you have discovered the hard way? What are the do's and don'ts that may help or hinder the experience? If you don't engage in roleplay yourself, do you think this discussion might encourage you to try it?

Once everyone has had a chance to contribute, I will post an edited summary of our discussion.

Role Play

Which scenario do you enjoy the most? teacher / student doctor / nurse employer / employee governess / pupil matron / ward parent / child politician / constituent master / servant military officer / recruit police officer / offender viking / victim pirate / serving wench all of the above something else none - I don't do roleplay Current Results

Rent, don't Buy

The British government's waste watchdog, the Waste and Resources Action Programme, has advised that instead of buying an outfit for that special occasion, it would be a better idea to rent one. A large part of the retail sector could be transformed into a service industry that specializes in renting clothing. Those items of apparel would be worn by many individuals over the course of a number of years, thus prolonging the useful life of a garment.

Wouldn't it be interesting to go to one of these shops for, say, a schoolgirl outfit, a pirate costume, a naughty french maid uniform, or whatever you fancy for this weekend's roleplay fun?

Yes Chef!

You probably know that I have an interest in chefs, particularly when they inspire thoughts of gourmet spanking.

Last week we were preparing dinner together. Ron was in charge that night; he was making spaghetti, and had assigned me to mushroom-sauteing duty. For some reason he wasn't happy with the way I was doing it and snapped at me to turn the heat down.

"Yes sir," I answered and did as I was told.

"That's 'yes chef,'" he corrected.

"Yes chef. And will your sous chef get a spanking if she ruins the mushrooms?"

"You don't want to find out."

I have what is known in culinary circles as "chef's fingers" and can handle hot food with my bare hands without minding the discomfort. Taking that analogy one step further, I could say that Ron has "chef's palms" and can easily manage a hot bottom.

Who says we don't role play?