We've all had days like that

Try a Dogging Bat

What is a dogging bat used for? It gets its name from a Western rodeo event involving horses and steers and lots of dust, and I suppose it's used to urge the horse to gallop faster, or maybe for whacking the steer. It's great for spanking, or course. But it has other uses too.

The other day I came home from work and went up to our bedroom to change out of my office clothes into something more comfortable. Fluffy and Fang came in to watch. While Fluffy checked my pockets for the possibility of a forgotten treat, Fang examined the selection of toys on the floor. (No, not spanking toys. Dog toys.) Dissatisfied with the choices, he started trying to fish one out from under the bed. He lay flat on his tummy and wiggled under as far as he could, but couldn't reach it. He got up, sat down, and looked pleadingly at me.

"Can't you play with Teddy? Here," and I tossed a sheepskin bear at him. Fang ignored it and started to dig at the carpet.

I was halfway through my clothing change and was wearing only a bra and panties, but I'm a well-trained doggy servant. I knelt down and peered under the bed. There was only one toy, and it was exactly under the centre of our king-size bed. There was no way I could reach it.

I stood up and looked around for something to use to pull the toy out. My lack of clothing ruled out going downstairs in search of a broom. As I scanned the room, the implements hanging on the bedpost caught my attention. The black leather strap was too floppy, the red leather slapper was too short, but the dogging bat was just right!

I separated it from its companions, knelt beside the bed again, and easily pushed the toy toward Fang, who snatched it up and began chewing contentedly on it.

After blowing the dust bunnies off the bat I returned it to its home and thought what a versatile implement it was. No wonder it's our favourite.

Blogging at Work

Why it's not such a good idea.

Two for One Offer

Lately we've been experimenting with two implements during a spanking - one leather and one wood. Or, as I like to say, one soft and one hard, and in that order. The last time we had an OTK session I got out both the red leather slapper and the hairbrush, but for some reason Ron stayed with the slapper. I have to admit he's quite comfortable using it now, and has figured out how to produce less noise and more sting. That was so nice I didn't feel I had any reason to stop him and ask for something else. When we were done, Ron tossed both implements into the drawer of his bedside table, so at present the hairbrush isn't hanging up like it was when I took the above picture. (You'll be pleased to see that I eventually finished my craft project.)

I was still determined to experience the brush, so last week, when I was bent over the bed and Ron got the slapper out of the drawer I asked, "May I have the hairbrush too?"

He didn't say anything, but picked it up and laid it on the bed within easy reach. Then he got down to business with the leather implement. I was soon well reddened and feeling warm and tender back there, and a lengthy pause for some exploring in my private region had me quite aroused.

The exploration stopped and I braced myself for the swats to resume. As soon as I felt the first one I knew it was the hairbrush. Since this was Ron's first time using it, he wasn't being too energetic, but it was the sound that fascinated me. After hearing the loud crack of leather, this was a sort of muffled thud, thud, thud.

Then I heard, not a thud, but a clunk! Ron had aimed a little too high on my bottom and had brought the brush down on an area that wasn't very well-padded. That was the sound of wood on thinly-covered bone. It wasn't painful, but it wasn't pleasant either.

Ron is very attuned to what he is doing so he adjusted his swing, and all subsequent brushstrokes landed nice and low, where the padding is generous and the sting is strong but so erotic. I was both glad and sorry when it was over and we turned our attention to other more intimate matters.

The burn from the brush lasted well over 24 hours, and I smiled frequently as I remembered our "two for the price of one" session.

No Strings Attached

Yesterday morning I was listening to a light rock radio station while preparing breakfast, and a line from the song I'm Easy caught my attention:

Take my hands and tie me down,
I won't put up any fight...

That was an invitation for bondage if ever I heard one. I enjoyed hearing the line repeated in the chorus after every verse, and was smiling and imagining all sorts of things by the time it was over.

The next song, Angel of the Morning, was even better:

There'll be no strings to bind your hands...

But I'm sure someone could talk her into it.

Bondage before breakfast - what fun! Even if it was only in my mind.

Meme - Spanking Preferences

Bonnie shared this meme with her readers a while ago, and I thought I'd have some fun with it too.

Would you rather be spanked outside in a cold woodshed or inside by a cozy fire? Inside where it's nice and warm.

Would you rather be spanked in public or in private? In private.

Would you rather fantasize about spanking or actually be spanked? If I can't be spanked, imagining it is the next best thing.

Would you rather be spanked for your humiliation or for your spanker's pleasure? For my spanker's pleasure, and mine too.

Would you rather be spanked by hand or by hairbrush? Hand. It's more intimate.

Would you rather be spanked by belt or by cane? I'll take the belt any day.

Would you rather be spanked by paddle or riding crop? Both, in that order.

Would you rather be restrained or unrestrained during your spanking? I like restraints, but it's just as much fun without them.

Would you rather be spanked until you cried or until you are aroused? Aroused. I never cry during a spanking, because I enjoy them so much.

Would you rather have just a red bottom or welts/bruises? I don't mind welts or bruises but they aren't a necessity. A red bottom is just as rewarding.

Would you rather be spanked for the naughty things you have done or just because you enjoy the experience? I am never spanked for being naughty. We spank because we both enjoy it.

Would you rather be spanked with pants up/skirt down or pants down/skirt up? The first is usually the prelude to the second.

Would you rather be spanked with panties up or panties down? A little up, a lot down.

Would you rather be spanked somewhat clothed or entirely naked? I'm usually naked, but find retaining some clothing more exciting.

Would you rather your spanking be strictly disciplinarian or sexually attractive in nature? All our spankings are because of sexual attraction. We don't do disciplinary spankings.

Would you rather be spanked by a male or by a female? Male, specifically my husband.

Would you rather be cuddled or scolded after your spanking? Cuddled.

Would you rather be spanked OTK or bent over a table/chair? I enjoy both.

Would you rather your spanker have physical contact with you? Uh, yeah, that's what it's all about.

Would you prefer to be spanked in the woods with a tree branch, bent over the hood of a car, or in a school with a ruler bent over the desk of your teacher/principal? Definitely with a ruler over the desk, just like I used to do with my dolls and teddies when I was a child.

Would you rather be a brat to your spanker to deserve a spanking or simply ask your spanker for a spanking because you know you needed it? Bratting gets me nowhere. If I need one I ask, but Ron decides when and where.

Have you received a spanking in the past week? Oh, yes.

Would you rather be spanked for the physical pleasure or the emotional release? Both happen during and after a spanking.

Would you rather tell your best friends you enjoy be spanked or keep it secret? I wouldn't tell.

Would you rather spanking be a lifestyle choice or just something you dabble in? It's a lifestyle choice. I was born this way.

Would you rather your lover be a vanilla or a spankoholic too? A spanko just like me.

Would you rather be spanked by a stranger or by someone who knew you well? It would have to be someone I know well, and who knows me well. And there's only one person in that category.

Would you rather be spanked by despotic, mean person or by a compassionate, benevolent person? The second.

Would you rather be talked to while you are spanked or no talking at all? I would love to hear all the words and phrases that get my juices flowing.

Would you rather get one swat at a time with pauses to let the sting set in or a continuous tanning to build up the fire? I would like some of the first and a lot of the second.

Would you rather be forced into a spanking or willingly submit into a spanking? Forcing wouldn't be consensual. I will always willingly submit.

Would you rather have a safe word or be pushed beyond your preconceived limits? We don't have a safe word. It isn't something we ever considered or even knew about until two years ago. I like being pushed to my limit, which always manages to creep ahead.

Would you rather your spanker know your spanking history or is ignorance bliss? He knows my history, because he was there for it.

Would you rather be spanked by multiple people at one time or just by one person at one time? Just one.

Would you rather be spanked once a day or once every few months? Once a day.

Would you rather your spanker be deeply in tune or be totally unaffected to your experience as a spankee? I would hope he was in tune with my wants and needs.

Would you rather a closer physical relationship or a closer emotional relationship with your spanker? I haven't experienced one without the other; they're hard to separate.

Would you rather your spanker ice your bottom down after a spanking or send you to the corner to display his/her accomplishment? Corners don't appeal to me, but neither does ice. A nice massage with some body lotion wouldn't go amiss.

Would you rather your spanker be the person you wish to live the rest of your life with (i.e. marriage) or the person you can call on when your tushy tickles? The person I'm spending the rest of my life with.

Would you rather spanking be a part of love making or not a part of love making? It is usually a part of love making, but I would like to try it as a standalone activity. A spanking for its own sake might be fun in a different way.

Would you rather your spanker have total control over you when you are being spanked or do you still want to have some control while you are being spanked? I like giving up control to my spanker, but he doesn't mind if I make a request.

Would you rather be humiliated or respected during your spanking? I would never want to be humiliated.

Would you rather spanking become part of a bigger BDSM alternative lifestyle or spanking just be spanking for spanking sake? It would be interesting to try a little BDSM, but spanking is our main focus.

Would you rather be filmed during a spanking to share your exhibitionist naughtiness or are you too modest to show your bum to the world? I wouldn't want to be filmed in any way. I don't like pictures taken of any part of my anatomy.

Would you rather your spanking be gentle and gradual or painful and abrupt? Either works for me.

Would you rather be defiant or fearful going into a spanking? I'm usually quite eager and perhaps just a little apprehensive, in a good way.

Would you rather be spanked exclusively in your own bedroom or anyplace else other than your own bedroom? The bedroom is our usual spanking location, but I'm taking steps to move our activity into other parts of the house.

Would you rather be spanked exclusively on your bottom or other places could be interesting too? I prefer it on my bottom. The backs of my thighs are fair game too, but I would never want to be spanked on any other part of my body.

Would you rather a spanking be a surprise or be something you have to look forward to? I like the anticipation of a spanking I know is going to happen, but I love surprises.

Would you rather spanking be a part of role playing kinkiness or a response to events that have happened in reality? We don't role play, although I would like to try it someday. Spanking in response to real events is usually a stress-relief spanking, and they're so important.

Job Opportunities with S&M

Among the spam in my email inbox was an invitation to visit a website for information on job opportunities. it wasn't the usual nonsense; the email came from a reputable source, and the link was to a Canadian company offering flexible hours working with well-known brands of products.

Curiosity got the better of me so I clicked. And ended up on an SM site!

No, not an S&M* site as we know it, but I thought for a moment it might have been. The home page extended an invitation to join the SM team and enjoy my day. Among the temptations were a perfect job that fits my schedule, an ideal life/work balance, a chance to build new relationships, and positions to suit everyone. There was a page called the SM community, that had a picture of the SM fan of the month, a calendar of events, a collage of happy smiling faces, and a community blog.

What am I waiting for?

* SM stands for Sales & Merchandising, but they omitted the & for obvious reasons.