Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for January 25

Our question this week was the one thing you wish you could change about your spankings. Here's what you said:


Dan: My need for spankings is really about a need for boundaries and discipline. Is is in that context that I say that if I could change one thing, it would be for the spankings to be delivered more consistently and rigorously, such that there would be no doubt that if I step out of line, I will have earned a hard spanking and that it will undoubtedly be delivered.

SweetPea: My dynamic includes spankings for discipline and for boundaries. However with that being said Dan (my Dan lol) has a tendency to use full force. Which I just simply won't submit to. It's not that I'm being bratty, it's just that I literally cannot take it. He's pretty strong, so we are still in the process of working out what is appropriate force, and at what range it would still be effective, because as we all know...what's a tap for?

DtBHC: My spanking dynamic is different. For me it is a reward. I seek a regular spanking as it helps me relax, unwind and reset. N’s version is set to music (I have two play lists which she chooses based on how she feels – classical and modern). I prefer classical.

The spankings are not currently part of discipline and would need to be delivered very differently it it were to be to be effective.

What would I like to change? The easy answer would be frequency, once a week would be very nice indeed. However, the more fundamental change I would like to see is for N to put aside some of her concerns about hurting/injuring me and ramping up the intensity, variation, positioning, and locations. Social conditioning is so hard to challenge and undo.

Baxter: We recently changed our house around and now we use a lower back bedroom as our sex and spanking room versus the master bedroom. So all the spanking implements are in this room and we have a futon in there also. The change in location in the house has been good as it is a different atmosphere and we have candles and incense on. Spankings are my interest and my wife happily gives me what I want and need and that is great for me.

abby: I am not sure what i would change, Master is always surprising me with something new.
My preferred spanking, would be all leather, a wonderful hand warm-up over His knee, and unlimited time to empty the toy bag...and throw in some bondage.

Blondie: I would change the noise I guess. Or maybe soundproof walls. I just hate that we have to wait till we are alone before we can spank.

Arched one: Some great comments. What I would like to change is when the spanking is for punishment scold me more. She does scold but not enough. If the spanking is for play or maintenance, talk to me more while spanking me. Tell me how you are feeling and what you are seeing. Being verbal when spanking is wonderful.

Bonnie: My first thought was "Nothing, I love my spankings." But upon further reflection, I think I might like a little more warm-up sometimes. We use some serious implements, and that's fine with me, but the pain is a lot easier to accept if my mind and my body are ready.

For a long spanking, Randy generally begins with a good hand spanking that prepares me for all that follows. But there are quick, severe spankings where I can barely catch my breath, let alone register what's happening. I might enjoy those spankings after the fact, but while it's happening, it's definitely more than I want.

Dr.Ken: The change I would make if I could? Frequency. I don't have a regular play partner, so I don't get the opportunity to spank someone nearly often enough. I thought something was developing recently with one very nice lady, but it's been months now since we've gotten together. And going months between chances to play is just too darn long!

Ronnie: Simply - more spankings:)

Nina: After 2014 was virtually spanking-free for us, we had a restart with more than just the fun spankings and in a discipline spanking I had a confusing time, some resentment included, although I craved these spankings. So, if there was anything, I'd love to have such moments of resentment gone for good.

Hermione: I love the fact that we have regularly scheduled spankings, just long enough and with a variety of implements. But if there could be some spontaneous, unplanned, surprise spankings too, that would be the icing on the cake.