Our topic this week was who decides it's time for a spanking.
Catherine: In our home, hubby determines when to spank, for whatever the reason.
However, there are times when I simply have "a need" I am learning to
ask if this is the case, but the final decision is up to him.
Florida Dom: I decide when and how long to spank my girl, but she is allowed to give
input. She told me she likes short, hard hand spankings as compared to
ones with flogger or riding crop. So I give her more hand spankings now.
But I use the flogger and crop on occasion.
And thanks for keeping Bonnie's brunch going.
FD, it's my pleasure!
Abby: It is usually Master's decision. I can ask, and He will usually agree.
I do not get to pick what He spanks with or for how long.
River: For us, if Ash decides a spanking is going to happen, then it happens.
He chooses the when, where, and implement. Sometimes I beg for something
different, but he had the final say. I am allowed and encouraged to ask
for a spanking when I feel the need. He says he loves it when I come to
him with that request, but I really hate asking for it!
Dan: It is usually my wife who initiates. I have been thinking lately,
however, that I need to be more vocal in expressing when I think I
deserve one or need the penance of a spanking to make up for some bad
act or failing. Instead, I tend to just get frustrated that she isn't
taking command as much as I would ideally like. I know some people see
asking for it as "topping from below," but I don't buy into that.
Relationships are an exchange, and both parties need to be able to
communicate what they need and want.
Nina: Hubby decides when a spanking is due, though I can also ask for one and
since I don't do that just for fun, but more when I really need it, he
usually complies. Nevertheless, the final decision on these matters is
always his alone.
Autumn: Since we are so new at this, I am usually the one to *hint* at wanting a
spanking, although that's not to say he doesn't ever initiate them.
It's so thrilling when he does, and they usually take me completely by
surprise. I have no problem with subtly asking for a spanking if I need
one, although, like most here, I don't like to have to come right out
and ask.
Fiona: While Sir will spank when and where and how he so desires, he's also
always said I can ask for one whenever I need it as well. I sometimes
struggle to ask for a spanking, but I'm getting better!
Rose: I usually ask. There have been a few that Dragon initiated but that
isn't the norm. He sets the tone and picks out implements. Once I am
in position, he is in control.
Country Spanker: I am the one that decides when Mrs CS deserves a spanking, but she is
very clever and often points me in the right direction without me
realising. That's another reason why I love her so.
Sir Wendel: It all depends on the moment. Normally I am the one that decides she
needs a spanking. Once in a while she will recommend I spank her for
misbehaving. For the “Girls' Nights Out” I know the paddle is coming to
ensure I behave while she is out.
Dr. Ken: Not in a relationship right now, but when I was, she could ask for one
(or instigate one), or I could take the initiative. There was no set
rule in the that regard.
Arched one: We are in agreement with most others. She decides when it's time to
spank, but if I feel I need spanking to clear my thought process I can
ask for one. When a spanking is going to happen, I lay out all the
implements and she picks what she wants to spank with and for how long
and the position my bottom is presented in.
Bogey: No masters or subs here, so we do it both ways. One of us can decide to
paddle the other or one of us can ask for a paddling. We pick the
paddled we want used on us.
S: When D decides he wants to spank or I need a spanking, that's it; I get
one, like it or not ! Sometimes my bottom tells me that it needs to be
spanked, and I know just how to provoke and tease him until, "Right,
young lady, you have been asking for a spanking, so now you're going to
get one", and I quickly find myself bent over with my rear end getting
the come-uppance it has asked for.
Joey: When I Top, I initiate the spanking 95% of the time. I know how hard it
is to ask so I initiate the spanking. Several times I have been asked
to do a special scene and I always oblige the female bottom.
As a
bottom, I almost always ask female Tops to play with me. Almost 95% of
the time, I must wait for them to choose when they want to spank me.
Baxter: I am the spanko in our marriage. I initiate probably 99% of the time by
asking R for a spanking or telling R that I need a spanking. Once we
were sitting at the lunch table and I asked R if she would spank me and
after she rolled her eyes, I took her by the hand and went to her
workshop, handed her the paddle, bared my bottom and she spanked me. So
yes I initiate it but control conveys to R and the result is a spanking
with her choice of belt, paddle or spoon. I am a happy spanko husband.
Minelle: Spanking usually happens when he decides, however I 'strongly' hint when I could use some attention!
Sunny Girl: I have to say I ask more than he initiates. Once the spanking has commenced though, he takes charge.
Ronnie: P decides when, where and how I get spanked but any time I feel in need of a little extra attention, I can ask.
Wilma: Barney decides, although I am about as transparent as glass. We talk
often after the fact about what implements have what affects on me. His
big line is "after all if it isn't working why bother?"
To answer
your question about asking. I am not only allowed but encouraged. In
truth I have only asked once (by handing him a paddle in tears) and
another time he asked me if I needed one, (I suppose that was almost
like me asking because he gave me the illusion anyway that I was in
control).
During r/a he will sometimes ask how I am doing, but during a punishment...he is in complete control.
Enzo: I am the spanker and always initiate and decide when and where a
spanking is due. I would have no problem with her asking for one, in
fact I often times wish she would as that would be very hot.
Since
the majority of spankings are "disciplinary" in nature, I understand
why she doesn't. However she did remind me once when I forgot to give
her one and was becoming distracted with her beauty.
RonJon: Being the spanko I tell the Mrs. when I need a good spanking. Most
times I have been in a grouchy mood and know I deserve it. I hand her the
belt and she takes over from there. We always use a belt but I would to
find a good flogger. Anyone know where I could buy one?
Cane-iac has some very good ones.
Hermione: Ron usually decides when a spanking will happen, and I like it that way. I always have the ability to ask for one if I feel in need of some stress relief, but I usually wait for him to take the lead.
That was a great discussion. See you all next week: same bat-time, same bat-channel!
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1 comment:
late to the party...usually it is me begging, I mean asking ;-) though sometimes he will initiate and I love that even more :-)
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